What is Real Life?

What is Real Life?

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What is ReaLife?

ReaLife is being real about life! We feel what we feel. We think what we think. We do what we do. We
are all doing the best we know to do. Being real about ‘what is’ is the first step in being authentic. Being
authentic is vital because hiding who we are brings us down emotionally, physically, and socially. For
the sake of humankind and the planet, we must focus on Love. The following three step process will
show you how.

I have created a practical, doable inspiring plan for myself and my clients to continue to evolve toward
Love. I have studied more than 80 books over the last six years and encountered interesting
worldviews and life strategies. However, I have found many of these, although wise, to be very
complicated and cumbersome. For example, I listened to a book on Joy, which concluded with a 13-
step meditation process! I knew in an instant that three steps to anything is more practical and doable!
(Personally, I can only do what is doable!)

The Three Steps to ReaLife

ReaLife is a 3-step mindset practice that you can do anytime and anywhere! ReaLife does not take
hours of meditation or journaling. ReaLife is transformative and straightforward. The 3-step process is
to be real about any issue, move the problem to your heart-area and sense it differently and then move
the matter to your spiritual center (above your head) for an additional perspective. Each movement up
expands the issue to represent our core values, which are eternal and powerfully good!

Step 1: Experience The Present Moment

The first step of ReaLife is to be grounded in the ‘now’ of all of our perceptions and experience ‘what
is.’ The groundwork of our life is our past, present, and future experiences. All our experiences are
recorded in our inner mind and in the cells of our body. Everything in our past has created who we are
today. Living in the what-is-ness of the present moment and being curious about what is unfolding
before us is an adventurous way to live.

Our experiences are perceived through our five senses: hearing, sight, smell, taste, and touch. What
we perceive through our five senses is registered in our body. Being able to sense our physical body
enables us to discern what we are experiencing at each moment. Also, our experiences are recorded
in our body through our thoughts, feelings, emotions, and perceptions.

Step 2: Move Up to The Heart Perspective

The next step of experiencing ReaLife is to listen to the perspective of our heart. Our True Heart shows
us how to live a life of love for ourselves, others, and the planet and, in so doing, become the Love of
Universal God Source.

Our heart energy brings together the Body and the Soul. Our physical heart sustains physical life. The
Soul is attached to and sustains life in the body in the heart energy center. Our Soul sustains our
spiritual life, which is Evolving, Eternal and Infinite.

HeartMath measures the energy which emanates from the heart center up to 12 feet in diameter beyond
our body. We literally can send love into the bodies of those around us as a matter of focus and
intention. Love flows toward and through us, and for and from us joining infinitely with Source. It
has been proven our heart center is the most powerful energy center of our body.

Now we add these two steps together. The first step is perceiving our ‘now’ experiences and sensing
‘what is.’ The second step is moving into the dimension of our heart of love and allowing it to make a
difference in our perceptions.

Step 3: ReaLife and Your Spiritual Center

The third step of ReaLife is to move into Infinite Spirit. Just above our physical head is the Crown
energy center, which joins us with Universal God Source Energy. This dimension is also where we
perceive visions and strengthen our intentions. Every thought that moves us forward is a creative
thought which emanates from this spiritual center.

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A Summary of ReaLife

The flow of ReaLife is being honest with ‘what is,’ moving this to our heart-area and perceiving ‘what is’
through love and then moving our thoughts or feelings up again to sense how our Soul can guide us to
an even higher perspective.

Try It! Go through your day feeling ‘what is,’ moving into your heart of love, and then moving up to your
spiritual self to see life from a higher level of reality. Anytime we move our thoughts from negative to
positive, we improve our immune function and well-being. And we send higher vibration energy into the
space around us to infinity!

An Example of The ReaLife Process

I had a circumstance in my life where I felt limited and angry. I experienced this limitation and emotion
in my body. Then I moved this issue into my heart and saw it through Love. I relaxed into Love and felt
a sense of trust in Source and myself for the best outcome. I also planned how I could use my voice to
say what I feel is the right thing to do. Then I moved up to a spiritual perspective, and I sensed ‘peace’
which helped me navigate this issue in a way that strengthened my health and well-being. Using the
ReaLife process, I moved from limit and anger to trust and honesty to peace. By the way, the issue is
resolved we achieved the best possible outcome! Yay!

Let Dani Be Your Guide To Experience ReaLife! Experience The Emotion Code, which is an energy
healing technique that helps get rid of emotional baggage from your past and past generations.
Experience RIM, which enables you to discover your Higher Truth. Experience PSYCH-K to
reprogram your subconscious and unconscious mind to achieve your goals. Book a FREE
Breakthrough phone call and find out about The Soul Power Experience! Go to danigreen.today.

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Dani Green

Dani Green
The Soul Power Experience Creator
www.danigreen.today | hello@danigreen.today


Dani Green

Dani Green is the Creator of The Soul Power Experience using motivational speaking, education and hypnotherapy. Dani also helps clients reduce stress, smoking cessation and weight release. As an Ordained Minister, Dani writes and officiates Weddings and Funerals. Dani and her husband, Kevin have three adult children and have hosted 15 international students.


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Keeping God Bigger

Keeping God Bigger

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When Life Gets Big, How Does God Stay Bigger?


The Importance Of Our Stories

I love sharing stories—my own stories and the stories of others. Why? Because we all have a story to

At Fave Lifestyles, I’m able to share both stories and short videos – Deanna Nowadnick.
In our web show “Conversations on the Purple Couch”, our stories have followed a theme. In
our first series, we talked about “Following God.” Rachel Calderon Young followed God out of the bright
lights of network television. Heather Rousey followed God into public service. Cindy Toledo followed
God through grief. Heather Eder followed God with words of encouragement. And Lynsie Hagen
followed God with her two boys, sharing sandwiches and small bouquets of flowers of surprise and
delight. Five ladies who inspired us!

When Life Gets Big

In our second series, we asked the question, “When life gets big, how do you keep God bigger?” Candy
Wright told a love story in which God took her on an unexpected journey literally, figuratively, and
spiritually. Kathy Collard Miller, the author of 56 books(!), began her writing ministry with a small book
called “No More Anger” in which she describes her painful time as an abusive mother.

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Recognizing God’s “Bigness”

Not until I met with Kathy did I realize I’d been asking the wrong question. The question was not what
do we do, but what does God do. “When life gets big, how does God stay bigger?”

During the pandemic, I was determined to see God in the details. I knew He would be bigger than our
biggest fears, stronger than the strongest virus, but I needed to see His bigness. I needed to see Him
in the details.

Too often I’m not seeing God in the details, I’m seeing Deanna. Too often I’m thinking—I’ve got this. I
don’t “got this.” Even in the best of times, I don’t got this. I don’t say that to add to our alarm; I say that
to inspire hope, to remind us that God’s got this—in the bigger moments, both the scary ones and the
beautiful ones and also in the smaller ones, in a single word of hope, kind gesture of compassion, a small
inspiration that finds a cure. God really does remain bigger than our biggest fear, stronger than the
strongest virus.

In a favorite Bible verse, we’re told,

The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not be in want.

I don’t know what tomorrow will bring, but I do know that God will provide for us—in ways we never
expected, never ever imagined. That can sound namby, pamby in times of stress. That can sound trite in
times of loss, but watch for it! I promise you: You will see Him in the details.

And then join us on the Purple Couch!

Deanna Nowadnick

Deanna Nowadnick

Speaker | Writer | Author


Deanna Nowadnick

Before my father died, he reminded me that Mom had asked me to write a book. At the time the boys were in college, and the notion of writing was unfathomable. Writers write books. By the time my boys were adults, I’d run out of excuses. I was also at that age when I could pause and reflect.

Fruit of My Spirit: Reframing Life in God’s Grace was my first publishing endeavor. My second was Signs in Life: Finding Direction in Our Travels with God. Both are collections of stories that tell of God’s love and faithfulness. Both tell of His remarkable grace and mercy.

When not writing, I serve as the Client Service Coordinator for The Planner’s Edge, an investment advisory firm in Washington state. I’m active in my church, serving on the Leadership Team and gathering with a wonderful group of ladies to study and giggle over lattes and chocolate. On my desk is a rock with the words “Choose Joy!” etched in it. It’s my inspiration for each day. As an author, it is my hope that my own words might share that joy we find together as children of God.

With Him, it can be so.


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From My Fave Chair to Yours

From My Fave Chair to Yours

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Depending on the age you are currently, you are either thinking that you are not “that OLD” or
you are feeling like you are getting “OLDER” every day. I only say this because recently I
jumped into the category of being called a “Senior” Never thought of myself becoming a Senior,
and I currently don’t feel like a Senior nor do I use the word “OLD” Not to say there are not days
of the neck, back or knee pain or some other not feeling good days.

As a Realtor serving Seniors and having an SRES designation that makes me more
knowledgeable about serving Seniors, I decided to refer to life past 55 as the 3rd & 4th Quarter.
In thinking about timelines as it relates to homeownership, it is many different needs that people
have at 55, 65, 75, 85, and 95. Fortunately, I’m blessed with clients in all those ages.
Mostly it’s not about age; instead, it’s about the Lifestyle. What is exciting at 55, is owning
second homes, vacationing, and traveling. Often at 55, the Dream Home may have been
purchased. One where there is plenty of room for entertaining, giving a room for everyone plus
the quest room & den too. At 65 -85, all those same needs exist but, let’s go to a one-level home

At 85-95 is the time of downsizing, getting to a home where the care, cleaning, and Maintenance
is not so unmanageable. The age considerations overlap, and I’m generalizing for a point.
How do you plan to age?

Let me list a few things that come to mind as to what I’ve considered about this question.

Health -yep, I want to stay healthy
Family – They should be as close by as possible
Retirement – Never given much thought about it until now
Finances -want to continue to live the lifestyle I’m comfortable with
Social connection -love to be around friends and enjoy an event with them

A longer list is possible.
Could you think of what you would add?

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How do you plan to age with your housing? That’s the question you may face with a doctor who
tells you to be in a safe environment. A financial planner tells you to consider other options
because the finances are going to run out. Children have something to say about the family home
too. Maybe they want the home to be theirs, or they are hopeful of an inheritance. Sisters,
Brothers, they may be tugging at you to make a change. There are many options, of course. Like
my friend Elisa Hawkinson with Calming the Chaos writes in
Favelifestyles, How to Navigate Life through each Season of Aging.

Ideas on how to navigate each season of life. Or Elisa points out the reality of making a move in
30 days. Are you Ready? 

My encouragement as you think about how you plan to age is to think about what the real cost of
staying in the large family home you purchased in your 40-50. What is the real cost of living in
that home with rooms you do not use?

Based on an $800,000. Home in the King or Snohomish county area, what are some of the
typical costs (costs vary by location & condition)

The monthly costs would look something like this:
Maintenance (many economists use 3% as the benchmark) $2,000
Home Owners Insurance $75
Property taxes $800
Utilities (gas, electric, water) $150
Sanitation $75
Outdoor Maintenance (landscaping) $200

Total Housing Expense Each Month $3,300

Even if you own your home free and clear, there is still an expense to living in your home, even
if it is paid off. Plus, consideration for market timing in selling should be evaluated. We want to
avoid having you sell in a down market. Keep track of your Realtor and prepare for making
changes, even if you are not ready. You know the path to “How you plan to age” and what
Lifestyle you want to live that gives you peace of mind, financial and physical comfort. In a time
when you are ready for a move, the outcome is successful for you, your family, and friends.

Call Teresa Barthol 425-876-9552 for an appointment to begin your path to financial and physical
comfort, and a successful move. Know the data behind your
dreams! www.lifestylestollive.com  Teresa.barthol@exprealty.com

Enjoy Today!

Teresa Barthol

Teresa Barthol

Realtor - Managing Broker



Teresa Barthol


Teresa Barthol -Managing Broker with eXp Realty Seattle.  Brings 22 plus years’ experience to consult with clients about real estate in the 3rd and 4th quarters of their lives. .  With longevity in Real Estate Teresa loves to share her optimistic problem solving skills, creative out of the box thinking along with her enthusiasm for great outcomes. “Believe,” she will say, your desires in life will be realized. Teresa focuses on Lifestyles to Live within the four walls you call home.

With Guest Authors: 
Marcelle Allen from Dreamosity
Elisa Hawkinson - How2GetOrganized!
Karen Herold - Wise Transition


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I’m Okay

I’m Okay

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I’m Okay!

I was 50 years old when I first felt ‘okay’ on the inside! I grew up with a bipolar single mom. I attended
a Christian University and worked as a staff pastor for 14 years. October 31, 2013 was the day when
discovered that my Soul within in my body and is pure and incorruptible. I felt a shift in my psyche. I
felt a new sense of inner strength. From that moment, I became 100% sure that I will always be okay.
I realized I have always been okay, and I just didn’t know it. I am still okay today. This deep sense of
feeling at home within myself has never left me. I hope the same for you.

God Has Hold Of US

When I go for a walk with my 17-month-old grandson, I make sure I have a tight hold of his hand and
wrist. I reach for him when he is running too fast. He reaches for me when he needs help up and
down the steps. Sometimes he will grab for my coat for balance. My coat can slip out of his hand.
Consider the difference between me securely holding his hand and him just holding my coat.

Universal God Source has a secure hold of your hand. God has a secure hold of all of us. We might
reach for God’s coat and plead for help. When all the while, God has been holding on to us. Our Soul
is the connection to God’s Divine Nature. God has hold of us for Eternity past, present, and future!

How Soul Connection Makes The Difference

In ancient writings, numbers represented concepts of understanding. The number ‘8’ represents God,
Soul, and Heaven. Ancient knowledge tells us these three realities are one and the same. The
number ‘8’ also represents the Infinity symbol. This understanding shows the Soul is connected and is
the same essence as God. Heaven is among us now.

When we are facing illness, at a Soul level, we can say, ‘I’m okay.’ When we are facing cancer, at the
Soul level, we can say, ‘I’m okay.’ When we are facing financial struggles, at the Soul level, we can
say, ‘I’m okay.’ Even when we are facing death, at the Soul level, we can say, ‘I’m okay.’ We are
never alone. God has a hold of each of us.

Freedom From Suffering

I heard a whisper one day that I was to bring ‘freedom.’ I asked, “Freedom from what”? As I waited for
the answer, eventually I heard, ‘freedom from suffering’. I asked if I could have an easier task, but the
answer was confirmed, “Freedom from Suffering. To me, it seemed like a nearly impossible calling. I
continue to listen for any clues. One truth is when we move into a consciousness of self-love and
become more loving toward others, the stronger we will be spiritually, and the less we will suffer.
Accepting ‘what is’ is another important mindset.

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Spiritual Freedom to the Hearts of Many

In May of 2018, I stood in front of the Lincoln Memorial. I anticipated this would be a profound
moment for me. I looked up into the marble eyes of President Lincoln. He seemed to say to me, ‘You
will bring spiritual freedom to the hearts of many’. In an instant, tearfully, I knew it was true.

What is spiritual freedom? We each have an Eternal Soul, which is our unbroken connection to
Universal God Source. We have always been and will always be connected to God. Nothing we do or
do not do will change our Divine nature. At the Soul level, we are Pure and Sinless. Our humanity is
represented by the part of our Soul, which is evolving. Our Evolving Soul learns, grows, and heals as
it becomes more loving. Spiritual freedom happens when we understand that when we practice a
religion, we will know that we are spiritually enough. If we do not practice a religion, we can still be
assured we are spiritually enough. God has hold of each of us.

A Word for Entrepreneurs

As we are each facing the effects of a global pandemic, we can remember that it is only our Spiritual
Self or our Soul that we will take with us into our next life. Whether we are meeting our business
goals or whether our business is on pause or if our business fails, we can still say, ‘I’m Okay’! We will
get through this difficult time.

Close your eyes, take a deep breath, sense your Soul and say, ‘I’m Okay’! We will find the next
creative idea to get started again. We have everything within us to do what we are called to do.

Let Dani Be Your Guide to Be Okay!

Activate Your Soul Power! Live Your Infinite Greatness! Be Your Own Hero! Book a FREE
Breakthrough phone call and find out about The Soul Power Experience! Go to danigreen.today.

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Dani Green

Dani Green
The Soul Power Experience Creator
www.danigreen.today | hello@danigreen.today


Dani Green

Dani Green is the Creator of The Soul Power Experience using motivational speaking, education and hypnotherapy. Dani also helps clients reduce stress, smoking cessation and weight release. As an Ordained Minister, Dani writes and officiates Weddings and Funerals. Dani and her husband, Kevin have three adult children and have hosted 15 international students.


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Have you set good boundaries in your life?

Have you set good boundaries in your life?

Have you set good boundaries in your life?

How To Set Boundaries In Your Relationships?

As women, setting boundaries in relationships may not come easy. We’re often used to doing all, being all and giving all to others, and at the risk of losing ourselves in the process.

That leads to a drain on our emotions and our energy and hinders the development of quality relationships. Here are a few tips on how to set healthy boundaries in your relationships. 

Why Set Boundaries In Your Relationships?

Healthy relationships of any kind have boundaries. A healthy relationship boundary is a line where you end, and the other person sort of begins. Without those boundaries being clearly defined, the people in the relationship may be confused and suffer from emotional distress.

Setting boundaries in relationships with friends and family show a commitment to mutual respect for feelings and opinions. Healthy relationship boundaries set expectations for how you want to be treated, and how you’ll treat the other person in the relationship. Whether it’s with your partner/spouse, your children, your friends or your coworkers, relationship boundaries protect you and also allow you to have deep, meaningful connection with the other person. 

How To Set Healthy Boundaries In Your Relationships?

  1. Know Your Needs.

Your needs in a relationship matter, but you can’t expect someone to know them or understand them if you don’t know and understand them yourself. Be self-aware and know your likes and dislikes. Know what things you want from your relationships and what you don’t want and won’t tolerate. Plan on how you want to be treated, and how you’ll treat the other person within the relationship.

To be fully aware of what your needs are in the relationship, you first need to know and love yourself. Author and Forgiveness Coach Brenda Reiss shares a very enlightening exercise to develop self-love from her article Love The One Your With

Each day take 3 minutes and look into your eyes in the mirror.  Set your timer on your phone. You want to take the full 3 minutes.

  • Look into your eyes
  • What feelings arise?
  • Do you want to look away?  Do you look away?  Does it feel intense?
  • What are the thoughts that arise?  Does it sound like “this is stupid”, “of course I love myself.  I don’t need to do this”.
  • Stay there a little longer
  • Does your mind start to calm down?
  • How about those feelings?  Is there sadness, grief, joy, peace, calm?

Practice this every day for 7 days and see how you feel.  I encourage you to keep going until you can look at yourself and feel peace, even love.

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  1. Communicate Your Needs. 

Again, you can’t expect others to understand your needs in a relationship if they’re not aware of them. When you’re setting up boundaries in relationships, it’s vital that you communicate those needs to the other person/people. You can’t expect people to read your mind, and you need to be clear and direct about your needs and expectations. Most of the boundary-crossing that happens in relationships is because one person was not clear and direct about their needs and their boundaries. Communication is key!

  1. Manage Expectations.

Just as it’s important for you to communicate your needs, it’s vital for you to manage the expectations of the other people in your relationships. An important part of setting up boundaries in relationships is managing the expectations of others. This means you’ll have to ask them about their expectations and needs, and you’ll have to decide if they’re ones you find acceptable and with which you can work. If you feel a family member is taking advantage of your kindness or generosity, talk to them about what they expect from you and whether or not you can meet their need. Managing the expectations of others is the best way to respect the boundaries of any relationship, and to help ensure that your relationship boundaries are not breached either. 

  1. Know Your Limits

It’s often ingrained upon us that we give, give, give even if that means that we give all of ourselves and leave nothing. You don’t have to be the super woman of your relationships. They should be about give and take, and if you’re doing way more of the giving than you are of the taking, it’s okay for you to set boundary lines for how much you’re comfortable giving. It’s easy to burn out of relationships in which the boundaries are too often crossed, but if you know your limits and are ready to exercise them, this will happen far less. 

We sometimes feel like setting up boundaries in relationships sounds harsh, but that couldn’t be less true. Healthy relationships need boundaries in order for all the involved parties to thrive. Consider setting up boundaries in relationships an investment in yourself and others, as doing so allows you to enjoy your relationships to the fullest. 

Some of the most rewarding relationships if our lives are the ones we have with our children. Creating relationships with your children as adults can be challenging, but when navigated and cultivated they can be better than you could have hoped 

According to the AARP, divorce rates have nearly doubled since the 1990s. This means that more women are finding themselves in different roles in mid-life. Additionally, this can change the dynamics of their relationships with their adult children as often it feels like there are ‘sides’ and everyone has to choose one.

Even if you’re not widowed or divorced, you may find that the relationships you have with your adult children are not as fulfilling as you hoped they might be. Creating new relationships with your adult children takes work, and we’ve got a few tips on how to rejuvenate those family bonds.

They’re Not Kids Anymore

It’s often said that getting older is not for sissies! Truer words have never been spoken. As we get older, we may find it difficult to view our adult children as adults. We still see them as the adorable little girls and boys with milk mustaches and silly Halloween costumes. While the years may pass quickly, letting go gets harder and harder.

Whether you find you need to create new relationships with your adult children because of the death of/divorce from your partner, or you simply need to get used to the idea that they’re not kids anymore, it takes work. The most important thing you can do is recognize this and then move into action to create new relationships with your children.

Divorce and Death Add New Dimensions

When you and your partner divorce, or your partner dies, the relationship with your adult children changes. You might experience anger from your adult children, as they’re not sure why the divorce happened. Or, they may be angry if they find out you just stayed in the marriage ‘for their sake,’ because they’ll feel like so much of their life wasn’t what they thought it was. 

Or, if you’re in a different dynamic with your children because your spouse or partner has died, you may find that they immediately want to take the reins and begin ‘parenting’ you. This can be endearing at first, but frustrating as you’re still capable of taking care of yourself.

In these cases, the most important thing you can do is communicate with your adult children. Let them know that you understand their feelings, and you want to validate them. Let them know that you won’t speak badly about their other parent, nor will you lean too heavily on them in the event of the death of their other parent, as you know they’re grieving too. Communication is key when establishing new relationships with your adult children.

Grow Together!

While divorce and death do uniquely affect your relationships with your adult children, simply the nature of their growing up and becoming adults makes it imperative you create new relationships with them.

You have to learn to let go of wanting to parent each step they take, and you have to learn to hold back when they’re finding their footing in this world they’re navigating. Even if you’re not divorced, or your partner hasn’t died, your relationships with your children will change because you are all adults doing adult things. Remember that now, as the mother to adult children, your advice is just that—advice. They’re no longer expected to take it simply because you say so, and so a little trusting encouragement goes a long way.

Recognize that instead of losing the little ones they were, you’ve now been given these amazing adults to bond with and grow with. Embrace the new relationships by allowing them to grow organically. Life changes whether are ready or not and creating new relationships with our adult children is one of the privileges that comes with change. Embrace them and bloom with them; who better to do so with than the amazing children you raised?

Whether it is your adult children, or any other relationships in your life, having boundaries is the way to create healthy bonds. Boundaries allow you to get what you need from your relationships and it sets the other person in the relationship up for success. If the other person has no idea of your wants and needs, they will constantly disappoint and be left feeling that they are failing you time and time again. So, while you might feel that setting boundaries is harsh, impolite or even mean it is actually one of the kindest things you can do for your friends, spouse and children. We all want to show up in our relationships in the best possible way and boundaries allows that to happen with ease. 


Karen Rae

Karen Rae

Owner, Fave Lifestyles


Karen Rae

I was becoming an empty nester, a woman of a more interesting age and in transition. Sound familiar? I was at that place where we question our purpose, value, and worth and what in the world are we going to do with the rest of our lives.

I noticed women have a huge hunger to belong to a community of women where they can feel safe, share openly from their heart and have other women to do life with! This is why I created my Fave Lifestyles.

Fave is for the woman who wants to call Fave her community of women who support, uplift, and make her feel better about herself. I want to create a place where we help her answer life's questions and just do life together!

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