2021: New Year Challenge of Legacy not Resolutions

2021: New Year Challenge of Legacy not Resolutions

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​In my book, “You are perfectly flawed and rarer than any diamond!”; I wrote a whole chapter titled  “Find your Legacy”.  It is too long of a chapter to share here and I didn’t want to cut the message up either.  If you want to dig deeper into this topic, please check out my book.

I want to challenge you to think about your legacy versus a new year’s resolution.  I want to spin it on the things that surround you and your environment.    As what you surround yourself with and adorn yourself with are a reflection of your self-image.   Below is a quote that I have always loved especially in this topic. 

Quote by Martha Stewart “Your home should be a reflection of how you want to live right now, and for the next phase of your life.”

If 2020 taught us anything, a key takeaway is to live simpler and appreciate our loved ones even more!  I ask you to look at your home, the things that you share your space with.  Do they really reflect the next phase of your life?   If not, it is time to make some changes.  Do you have things that you have kept because you inherited it and feel duty bound to keep it?  Or do you have things that are just hard to get rid of because of the emotion attached to the item/s? 

As I write this, I have been going through and removing things that I no longer see as a fit in my next phase. One in particular has been a hard one for me: My black leather briefcase that I started my financial world with back in 1990, when I started in banking. I carried it for years, it held important documents and it was also a status symbol too back in the day. Think of me in a power suit and sneakers much like Tess in the 1988 movie -Working Girl with my beloved briefcase!

I was going through my closet and there it was tucked back in the back on my top shelf. I cleared many items from the top shelf fairly quickly and released them to the wild…the thrift store! However, this one item, for a little longer tied to my identity apparently held on for dear life!  It was as if I let this one item go… the one item that had played such an important support role to my career… I might not be her anymore.

I had to let it simmer a little more… I am not her anymore! I hadn’t carried it in almost 25 years! Why am I having such a hard time letting it go? I hadn’t even opened it up, yet! Truth be told, I was trying to remember the 3-digit code for the double tumbler locks! So secure…what treasures could still be in it? What notes or treasures could be found inside?  I struggled with it, and finally I put in the magic code. The left lock sprang open…I did the same on the right side and it was stuck. It did not open!  Seriously, okay Universe/God what trick is this? I walked away for a few minutes as I recalled the last time; I had carried it was not the best time in my life personally. Maybe there was something in there that might cause me pain. Thankfully I had forgiven and forgotten some difficult stuff from my past. 

2021: New Year Challenge of Legacy not Resolutions
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I left the briefcase sit on the top of my dresser for several days. Every time I went into my closet; I looked at it and waited for the right time. Early in the morning, when I was alone. I sat on my closet floor with my beloved briefcase in one hand and a flathead screwdriver in the other hand! I was going to break into it at all costs… the leather was worn and the handle was too worn to donate in the end. If I had to break it open it wouldn’t really be that much more damaged… to anyone else it was trash already! 

I tried the right lock, with the 3-digit code again as I had several days ago… it sprang open!  Inside of my briefcase were pens still in their pen slots and several pieces of paper with my handwritten notes on them. Nothing of value except it was a list of pros/cons of a very difficult decision in my life. I read the lists and remembered the time very clear as if I was right there making the list 25 years ago! I still make lists of pros/cons when a decision has to be made. 

I have now shredded the lists, thrown out the pens and trashed my briefcase after taking a picture of it. (see picture at the top of article). It was a pivotable piece in my life and career. It is no longer needed in my next phase of my life. Especially in the digital age, whereas most documents are sent electronically. I am no longer that shy young lady hiding behind her briefcase and power suit aspiring to prove my worth and credentials in my field! If you know me, it is hard to imagine I once was very timid and shy. Now I am that fearless woman… taking on the Wallstreet Bull as I know my worth and I don’t back down!

So… What do you have in your surroundings that no longer serve the next phase of your life or your legacy?  

Challenge accepted? You decide.

Tiffany Gough

Tiffany Gough

Financial advisor I Speaker IAuthor


Tiffany Gough

Tiffany L. Gough has been in the financial services industry since 1990. Over the years, she has helped many through some difficult times while working on their financial goals. She is a financial advisor with an office in Seattle. In her debut book, "You are perfectly flawed and rarer than any diamond!", she shares some of the tools that helped her with her challenges as well as others. She grew up in Seattle. She is married and has two grown bonus sons (aka stepsons) who reside in Toronto, Ontario Canada.


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Wine Pairing 101

Wine Pairing 101

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They say there’s no time like the present, right? So how about using this time we’ve been given to do something you’ve maybe thought about often but didn’t have the time for? That’s right…we’re talking about Wine Pairing, and if you’ve ever wanted to know what wine went with what food, you’re in luck with Wine Pairing 101.

Common Sense Goes a Long Way

Luckily, wine pairing really isn’t as complicated as it may seem. Maybe you’ve been afraid to even look into what food goes with the wine you’re drinking because you’re concerned about the complexity or amount of expertise you need. The good news is that with a few basic pieces of knowledge (and a nice dose of common sense) you should be a wine pairing pro in no time!

Most importantly, remember that these days…rules seem to be evolving and that works in your favor! Common sense is key. You know that a nice cool pinot is probably not the best to pair with your famous three-alarm chili, and you’re probably not interested in pairing a heavy Chianti with a Cobb Salad. (Though new rules also say if it’s just you eating and drinking, you do what makes you happy!)

The Basics

If all you ever know is a few things, remember this:

  • Red wines are more bitter than whites
  • Whites, rosés and sparkling wines are more acidic
  • Sweet wines are best with sweeter foods

So when you’re looking at pairing wines, you want to take food and break it down to basic dominant tastes. Think salty, sweet, spicy (even with some acid) and fatty. Green salads are typically bitter/acid while creamy dishes typically range on fatty/sweet sides.

A good basic rule for pairing is to serve high acid foods with high acid wines. Additionally, match light-bodied, dry, low-alcohol wines with lighter dishes and full-bodied, higher alcohol and creamy-textured wines with heavier foods–your creamier, fattier dishes.

Tannic wines (like Cabernet Sauvignons or Malbecs) shouldn’t really go with fatty or oily fish but you can soften a tannic wine when you serve it with a salty or protein-rich food (hearty beefs seasoned well).

Here are a few other general pieces of helpful, basic information:

  • Sauvignon Blanc is a higher acid, but lighter wine
  • Chardonnay is not too acidic but is more full-bodied
  • Pinot Noirs are lighter bodied red wines and they’re lower in tannins (bitterness)
  • Cabernet Sauvignon is more full-bodied and has high tannins

So just tuck this away in your memory…generally speaking, red wines go with red meats, white with fish and poultry when in doubt. It’s also important to note that how you cook the main ingredient matters too.

For instance, fried chicken is very different from chicken parmesan which is very different from a creamy mushroom chicken. Consider matching textures of foods with wines as well, not just the meat type. Creamy foods often pair nicely with smooth, dry white wines (maybe a chardonnay or chenin blanc?) while for something along the lines of a chicken parmesan, may consider a traditional red burgundy or chianti. And if you’re pairing fried chicken with a wine, a crisp and aromatic white like a pinot grigio or Riesling can fit the bill.

Also remember that when you’re matching fish and pasta as well. It’s more about how you cook the foods than what the foods are, so keep heavier wines (traditionally reds) for heavier, heartier meals and lighter wines (traditionally whites) for lighter, less creamy meals.

Flavor also changes based on how you cook something. You can grill fish and it’s lighter, or you can use it in a Cioppino or stew and that may require something heavier. A good rule of thumb is to pair light-bodied wines (Pinots, Grenaches, Merlots) lightly cooked dishes and more full-bodied wines (Malbecs, Cabernets and Chardonnays) with meals that have heavier, more intense flavors.

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Consider The Table

Most often, you’ll pair the wine with the main ingredient, but you also want to consider the side dishes of the table as well. Sometimes having lots on the table means your wine will have a heavy, hearty body. Lighter, more delicate wines often are preferred when it comes to lightly sided meals…say grilled chicken with a side salad.

What About Dessert?

As for desserts, you want your wine to be sweeter than the dessert you’re serving. This is tough because chocolate desserts are often super sweet but also pair nicely with light and sweet wines.

When it comes to pairing wines, it’s all about balance. You want to make sure your wine matches the weight and flavor of your meal, but you also don’t want to be so worried about what pairs that you miss out on the enjoyment of both your meal and your wine. Keep these few tips in mind when pairing and you’ll have the best of both worlds.


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Karen Rae

Karen Rae

Owner, Fave Lifestyles


Karen Rae

I was becoming an empty nester, a woman of a more interesting age and in transition. Sound familiar? I was at that place where we question our purpose, value, and worth and what in the world are we going to do with the rest of our lives.

I noticed women have a huge hunger to belong to a community of women where they can feel safe, share openly from their heart and have other women to do life with! This is why I created my Fave Lifestyles.

Fave is for the woman who wants to call Fave her community of women who support, uplift, and make her feel better about herself. I want to create a place where we help her answer life's questions and just do life together!

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Beyond Hope

Beyond Hope

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When Hope Is Not Enough

A post on Facebook caught my attention; a woman said, “I will never hope again.” I imagine she had hoped for something or in someone that had not met her expectations. Maybe she prayed and had faith and believed as much as she could that life would go in a certain way. Reality told a different Story, and she was deeply disheartened. Her hope did not stretch to understand the reality she was facing.

Hope Is

Hope is a feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen. The Bible says hope lies before us. Hope is a strong and trustworthy anchor for our Souls. We have an Infinite number of choices each day. The only reality is what is happening at the present moment. Since hope lies before us, we can trust that any next step is the best one we can take. If you think about an anchor keeping a boat in place, the only still and certain place is at the point at which the anchor is secured to the bottom of the body of water. The boat at the surface and can move within 360 degrees of motion and might be being tossed by the wind and the waves.

Hope Is Not

When we have a strong desire for a certain thing to happen and place our hope in circumstances beyond our control, we can find ourselves in a place of pain and suffering. We blame ourselves or others or God, and no solution is in sight.

The Microscope and the Telescope

Our lives happen somewhere between the microscope and the telescope. We exist in Infinite cellular matter and Infinite expansive space. God is our Source of Love and Purpose and Order. We do not have control of either realm. We do have the privilege of Life and all of our Experiences. We do have the option to receive and give Love. We can continue to transform into beings of Higher Consciousness for the wellbeing of the human family, our animal friends, and the planet.

God is within us and beyond us. Love surrounds us, and the knowing is enough to give us Hope.

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Control Is A Struggle For Me

Self-control is the most challenging aspect of my life. Often, I do what I don’t want to do, and I don’t do what I want to do. Since I cannot control myself, how can I expect to control the outcome of my life? How can I desire certain things to happen or not to happen if events are outside of my control?

God Is In The Present Moment

If I can only count on the present moment’s reality, perhaps this is where God meets me each day. I no longer tell God what to do. I am happy God is with me. I trust that Jesus understands me and is working with me to save me from myself. I know that the Holy Spirit of Love is united perfectly with my Soul, and I have everything I need for my life and happiness. The Present Moment is my anchor. My life may turn out in an Infinite number of ways, and I am okay with that because I am okay today.

Beyond Hope

Sometimes we let our hope get ahead of us. We hope beyond the Present Moment. We expect God to do our bidding, and then we become greatly disappointed. Hope in Love. The purpose of our lives is to receive and give Love. Experiencing Love is the point and purpose of our Essence and our Existence.

One way our hope is renewed is to learn the deeper meaning of our life experiences. We discover transformational Truths that anchor the events of our lives to who we are today. Going deep where Truth is secure is a place we find Hope.

Namaste – the Divine in Me Celebrates the Divine in You!I Love You!

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Dani Green

Dani Green is the Creator of The Soul Power Experience using motivational speaking, education and hypnotherapy. Dani also helps clients reduce stress, smoking cessation and weight release. As an Ordained Minister, Dani writes and officiates Weddings and Funerals. Dani and her husband, Kevin have three adult children and have hosted 15 international students.


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The Benefits of Gratitude

The Benefits of Gratitude

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The holidays are a time when giving thanks is more abundant.  We gather together to share food and exchange gifts. However, what if gratitude was an everyday experience?

There are many ways you can express gratitude. Practicing gratitude is one of the fastest ways to shift one’s mood, thoughts and results from whatever is not wanted to what is desired.  If one has the desire to master a particular behavior such as gratitude, it takes practice.  This article gives some ways to begin, how to practice and offers up possibilities of your life changing for the better, all from the simple and always available gratitude practice.


When to start a gratitude practice

It’s always best to start practicing gratitude when your energy level is neutral or higher.  When you are happy, at peace or feeling love it is much easier to “count your blessings”.  If you’re feeling blue or complaining about what you don’t have, it will be much easier to turn that perspective around when gratitude is already familiar to you.  Therefore, use the good times to build your practice, so you can rely on this when you may need it most.

Start wherever you are now and continue to evolve.  This is the formula for any self-improvement journey.  Although you can become an avid appreciator, daily awareness, attention and rituals will keep this virtue going strong.  Every day is a new start, so start now.  If you already feel gratitude often, read further on how you can deepen or enrich your practice.

How can you practice gratitude?

Start with an existing daily activity, such as waking up, brushing your teeth, walking to your vehicle, drinking a favorite beverage or eating a meal. Each day choose one routine activity and for one-minute focus on everything you appreciate about this.  Here is a gratitude example, as I’m eating a meal, I can be thankful for the food that nourishes my body, for the various smells, colors, temperature and textures of the food.  I can be grateful for all the people that grew the food, harvested it, and transported it to the market. I can acknowledge all of the people who stocked the grocery store shelves, the cashier who assisted me in my purchase and that I have resources to buy my food.  I can be grateful to everyone involved in preparing my meal, myself included.  If this didn’t take up a minute, I could extend my appreciation to the soil, rain, sun and miracle of a seed that made this meal possible.  Many of us take our daily experiences for granted.  In beginning a gratitude practice, it’s easiest to start when you appreciate what you have or are already doing.


Why is gratitude important?

There are 4 scientifically proven benefits of being grateful.

  1. Relationships – People are more likely to reciprocate acts of appreciation and acknowledgment when you display these genuine gestures according to Positive Psychology March 2020 leading to friendships and healthier relationships.
  2. Physical Health – Gratitude improves physical health according to slew of studies over the past 20 years, one being GGSC at UC Berkeley, 2018. Research shows a correlation of gratitude and having a stronger cardiovascular system, reporting fewer aches and pains and better sleep.  It is also noted that people who have feelings of appreciation and happiness engage in other lifestyle behaviors like eating well and exercising in ways that are fun.
  3. Mental Health – A study from Nationwide Childrens May 2020 states: People who regularly express gratitude for the positive things in their life are shown to be happier overall, leading to lower rates of stress and depression. Expressing gratitude can improve your mood and showing gratitude can make you more optimistic. Not only does gratitude reduce stress, it may also play a major role in overcoming trauma.
  4. Emotional Well-being – Researcher Robert Emmons, PhD, has extensively studied the link between gratitude and well-being. He has found that gratitude can reduce negative emotions such as envy, resentment and frustration.  Study participants who ranked higher on gratitude scales were found to be more empathetic toward others and had higher self-esteem.  Grateful people are able to appreciate other people’s successes.


Besides enormous benefits, cultivating a gratitude practice doesn’t take much time or cost any money.

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How to be grateful when times are difficult?

“When it rains on your parade, look up rather than down. Without the rain, there would be no rainbow.” – G.K. Chesterton

Studies have shown that whatever we focus on expands. Therefore, when we focus on lack our attention goes to what we don’t have.  When we focus on abundance, we notice more of what we have.  “Both abundance and lack exist simultaneously, as parallel realities”, states Sarah Ban Breathnach, author of the mid-90’s best seller, Simple Abundance.  Breathnach goes on to say that abundance is not only in the things we possess, but in our relationships, work, personal pursuits, nature, health and love.  When we choose to revel in all that we have, our minds and energy follow along.

Gratitude can change challenging situations or difficult times into a positive one.  It’s easy to be thankful for good things, yet mistakes teach us valuable lessons, limitations are opportunities for improvement, and if we don’t have everything we desire, it could mean there is something to look forward to.  Having a daily gratitude practice can shift your mind from the negative to the positive, and offer you a deeper feeling of joy, as well as acknowledging the evidence of more good coming into your life.


Gratitude Day Activities for New Possibilities

Each night before going to sleep, spend 15 minutes writing down all that you’re grateful for.  You may have to dig deep but keep exploring.  Then notice how you feel.  Keep this practice going every night for at least 40 days. It is said in yoga traditions that it takes 40 continuous days to rewire a habit.  Take it further and continue for 90 continuous days to establish the new habit of daily journaling which affects your conscious and subconscious mind, attitude and behaviors, opening your life to new and better possibilities.

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” coined by Jim Rohn applies to the power of gratitude.  Therefore, surround yourself with others who practice gratitude and be a model of thankfulness as well.  Before any of us could walk, we began to crawl.  We also watched others walking, which gave us further desire and modeling to achieve standing on two feet and moving forward.  Throughout our lives we have received help and have helped others.  Sharing and showing appreciation is a powerful act which uplifts others and one’s self.

Inspirational quotes to keep you going

Whether you are a thankfulness newbie or a gratitude guru, everyone can use a little pick-me-up.  This article also includes some of favorite go-to quotes to keep a high vibe and remember what life is all about.  I hope they help you to remember your blessings too.

“A thankful heart is not only the greatest virtue, but the parent of all the other virtues.” —Cicero

“As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, to live by them.” – John F. Kennedy

“Gratitude is the healthiest of all human emotions. The more you express gratitude for what you have, the more likely you will have even more to express gratitude for.” – Zig Ziglar

“When things go wrong, take a moment to be thankful for the many things that are going right.” – tinybuddha

“Thank you” – Barbara Badolati

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Barbara Badolati

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Barbara Badolati

Barbara Badolati, founder of BeWell Retreats has been a key player in the evolution of wellness since 1986. Her dedication to this field has included creating corporate wellness cultures, opening several yoga studios, providing health and life coaching for individuals, and leading worldwide retreats. The foundation of her work is to empower the individual toward greater health and well-being through lifestyle, mindset, movement and meditation. You can experience all of this and more through her virtual retreats and classes at BeWellRetreats.com


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Morning WOLK with God

Morning WOLK with God

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In November I had the joy of hosting our first “Morning WOLK with God” here at Fave Lifestyles. Yes, Morning WOLK with God. No, I did not misspell WOLK.

I’m a passionate advocate for words of loving kindness. “Walk the WOLK,” I like to say. Walk the words of loving kindness.

WOLK started two and a half years ago when I had an unexpected conversation that changed me, changed my thinking, changed my interactions with those around me. A dear lady Shelly found me on Facebook and asked me to speak with the women of her community. Immediately I’m thinking OK, God. Lots of possibilities here. We could do that special workshop You helped me put together where we follow Moses to our promised land. If not a workshop, we could have a small book club gathering and talk about one of the two books You helped me write.

And then I realized Shelly wasn’t asking for a workshop. She didn’t want to discuss one of my books. She was asking for help having a conversation. Shelly’s community had changed in ways not expected, never imagined. Using her examples as well as my own, think about your own community and see if you can relate:

  • Drug and alcohol addiction
  • Homelessness, joblessness, illegal immigration, and crime.
  • Neighbors struggling just to make it
  • Hate groups

And now 2 ½ years later, we can add the long-term stress of COVID-19 and political rancor.

Here’s a factoid: did you know that 2020 campaign spending was expected to reach almost $14,000,000,000? That’s a billion with a “b.” That’s money that did not bring us closer, money that has not helped us find new solutions to complex problems or new opportunities to make a difference. It’s money that really accentuated our differences.

Shelly and the women of her community wanted to be a light in dark corners. They wanted to plants seeds of love, joy, peace, and hope in the fields of challenges around them. They all wanted to have a meaningful impact on their community.

The Sunday after my conversation with Shelly, my pastor ended his sermon with a verse from Titus 3, reminding us that God’s loving kindness was/is our saving grace. When I got home, I had to look up Titus 3 in the Bible, because I was not familiar with the apostle Paul’s letter to his young co-worker in the faith, Titus. There I found life-changing instructions.

In his letter Paul encourages us to be agents of change who are devoted to Jesus and the common good. So what does that mean to us? I think that means that Paul would want us to change the discourse. I think that means that Paul would want us to change the dialog, to be a light in dark places, to plant seeds of love, joy, peace, hope. At a cost of $14B, I think we’ve seen that change is not going to happen with them. Change is going to happen with us. And that’s the reason for “Morning WOLK with God.”

Together with you, I want to be an agent of change and I want to do that by going big in the smallest ways. Together with you, I want to share God’s loving kindness—the really big stuff—in small conversations and small moments. Together with you, I want to embrace those smaller moments so we can be ready for the bigger ones. To do that we’ll use our time on Fridays to connect to God and each other. We talk about how to make God’s loving kindness an even more intentional part of what we say and do. This is not about being nicer; it’s about being intentional. This is about what God’s going to be able to do in, through, and around us!

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Our communities and neighborhoods, our neighbors, friends and families will continue to struggle. We will lurch from one divisive and demeaning conversation to another. Nothing will get done. And as women of faith, I think we will have missed our call to have a meaningful impact.


Fave Lifestyles is about doing life together. When we “walk the WOLK,” we get to do life in a very special way. When we “walk the WOLK,” we’re going to impact those around us in ways we will never fully understand or appreciate. How cool is that!

I truly believe we can have a meaningful impact on those places and people that mean the most to us—in the smallest moments, the smallest conversations, and also the bigger ones, the harder ones. Because we are women of faith and we are part of a bigger, more important purpose. We can be agents of change. We can change the dialog, change the discourse. We can make a difference—today, right now. I believe it can be so!


It’s easy to feel overwhelmed by the issues of our day. But together we can share Love, Joy, Peace, and Hope, God’s capitalized versions.

I pray that “Morning WOLK with God” might inspire and motivate us. Join us on Fridays at 8:00 a.m., if you can. Begin thinking about small ways you might be a light, that you might plant seeds of support and encouragement in the lives of those around me.

I close with a verse from another letter that Paul wrote, this time to the Romans (15:13):

“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him,

so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.”


Deanna Nowadnick is the author of Fruit of My Spirit and Signs in Life.

Deanna Nowadnick

Deanna Nowadnick

Speaker | Writer | Author


Deanna Nowadnick

Before my father died, he reminded me that Mom had asked me to write a book. At the time the boys were in college, and the notion of writing was unfathomable. Writers write books. By the time my boys were adults, I’d run out of excuses. I was also at that age when I could pause and reflect.

Fruit of My Spirit: Reframing Life in God’s Grace was my first publishing endeavor. My second was Signs in Life: Finding Direction in Our Travels with God. Both are collections of stories that tell of God’s love and faithfulness. Both tell of His remarkable grace and mercy.

When not writing, I serve as the Client Service Coordinator for The Planner’s Edge, an investment advisory firm in Washington state. I’m active in my church, serving on the Leadership Team and gathering with a wonderful group of ladies to study and giggle over lattes and chocolate. On my desk is a rock with the words “Choose Joy!” etched in it. It’s my inspiration for each day. As an author, it is my hope that my own words might share that joy we find together as children of God.

With Him, it can be so.


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