From my Fave Chair to Yours.
A Joyful Lifestyle for Your Senior Parents.
There is that point in time where children start conversations with their parents that are surprising. This past week as we are following government orders and Staying at Home, I had two unexpected calls that went like this:
From Son #1, “Hi Mom, are you doing, OK?” My son rarely calls mostly never asks, and here he is calling with some worry in his voice. Surprising! With his caring call, I felt loved. It was a memorable call and sort of felt like a switch in roles. Has this happened to you?
From Son#2, “Hi Mom, I’m planning a grocery store run on Friday, should I get some groceries for you?” It took me a minute; I had to think, why do I need him to shop for me? Oh, Yes, I’m over 60 and now in the high-risk group.
I said, “sure, why not? I’ll text you my list & thank you, that is so thoughtful.” Has this happened to you?
Tell me? Have you received such calls? Maybe you are still under 60.
Either way, the point of this writing is to talk about our parents. How can we make them feel joyful? At the same time, not making them feel inadequate, not capable, that you are bossing them, taking control of them, or any other feelings that come up to steal the joy away from them.
What would it look like if my sons had called to say: “Mom, we think you should downsize, move to a smaller home, closer to us, into a Senior care home?”
How would I answer those questions?
I doubt that it would be “sure, why not.”
How do we start conversations with parents? How & when to initiate a respectful discussion about possible moves? Does jump-starting parents out of procrastination seem overwhelming? How to tell them that a crisis about to unfold unless they get their life & plans in order?
It was my experience with my mother that these conversations were not open to input. She was in charge & when the time was right, she would take care of it. From my perspective, it did not help me feel like a caring daughter when those conversations lead to some fight about, moving, downsizing, and getting things in order. Just having some honest conversations about our feelings would have been better.
Here I am, 22 years in Real Estate with a desire to help mend some of these unhappy experiences & bring more joy into the lives of Seniors.
Helping families have less stress & conflicts about changes in the Senior years.
It’s good to have a facilitator for those conversations, and that is why you should call me. What I bring to the table is a calm spirit. A willingness to listen to everyone, ask lots of questions, and unfold the knowledge and recourses I have collected over the years. If you have parents for whom you would like to see changes made and find they are putting it off, invite me to present ideas, options & strategies. Forget about any sales pressure in that first meeting. Just discovery of the following:
What is the house worth?
Where do they see themselves shortly?
What about stuff?
Other places to consider?
I go over all these questions and more. What I have found is that parents open up, children share their concerns, and no discord to takes place. It may take time or more meetings. That’s OK. I’m there to achieve as a facilitator, experienced in working with Seniors, is understanding of the needs, and what direction would work best for all. SRES (Seniors Real Estate Specialists are REALTORS® who have additional training to work with older clients. If we compare a real estate license to a bachelor’s degree, the SRES® designation is the agent’s major.)
Please help me help you make joyful experiences and happy moves for our Seniors.
Call me, text me
It would be my pleasure.
From my Fave Chair to yours!
Realtor - Managing Broker
Teresa Barthol -Managing Broker with eXp Realty Seattle. Brings 22 plus years’ experience to consult with clients about real estate in the 3rd and 4th quarters of their lives. . With longevity in Real Estate Teresa loves to share her optimistic problem solving skills, creative out of the box thinking along with her enthusiasm for great outcomes. “Believe,” she will say, your desires in life will be realized. Teresa focuses on Lifestyles to Live within the four walls you call home.
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