It’s Time to Love Yourself

It’s Time to Love Yourself

Self-Quiz: Are You “Too Busy”?

Do you feel at home wherever you are?  In your actual home and your body since your
body is home for all the parts of you?

When we feel at home, we feel peace, security, safety and belonging.

These foundations not only help us to feel more secure in our physical home, but they also
help us to feel more secure in our own skin. This provides a way that we can feel comfortable
no matter what is happening in the world around us.

Home is meant to be love.

If you aren’t feeling at home, maybe it’s time for an inventory.  We can get really good at
taking other people’s inventories (big smile here) and not so good at taking our own.  Yet,
when we get honest with ourselves, it provides the answers that we keep seeking outside
of ourselves.

Grab a pen and paper, set yourself up in a quiet space with some soft music which helps to
distract your head; take a few breaths focusing on your heart and then ask yourself one of
these questions:

  • What am I hiding from?
  • Am I afraid of being myself?
  • Do I feel that I don’t belong?
  • What if I did choose another path in business or relationships? What would that entail?
    What feelings come up?

A great question to ponder is:

  • What is my understanding or definition of what home is?  Maybe it’s an unsafe place
    or didn’t provide stability or loving feelings.  And then maybe it did but we have lost that along
    the way.

Trust what you feel or hear.  That’s one of the biggest steps.

It’s time to come home to you.  It’s time to love yourself and create a new sense of safety,
security and belonging within.

We have all chosen experiences in our lives for a reason which allows us to revisit some
situations that may have taken us back to our original pain.

When we look at these experiences through the lens of choice and healing, it can give
us a different perspective about ourselves.  That we are strong and capable and courageous.
And most of all, worthy of loving ourselves just for that reason.

So now we can say NO to the suffering of the past; say NO to our inner critic; and NO
to those people and situations that want to dim our light.

We get to choose a new home.  A place where it excites us to be.  Maybe it’s a little weird
at first and uncomfortable as we set boundaries and figure out what it is that lights us up.
That’s okay.  As long as, we are willing to stick with the forward motion for ourselves.
Embodying the beautiful being that we are becoming and want to hang around with.

Brenda Reiss

Brenda Reiss

Forgivness Coach
brendareisscoaching.com

about

Brenda Reiss

The author of “Forgive Yourself”, Brenda Reiss truly walks her talk. She discovered the power of self-forgiveness when a series of life events put her in a very dark place. Failed marriages, abuse, and severe health issues were just a few of the challenges she faced.

Determined to rewrite her story, Brenda sought answers – and found them in the concept of “radical forgiveness”.

What she learned changed her life forever.

Brenda is highly skilled at helping people find peace in their personal and professional lives. Coupling teachable techniques with forgiveness theory, this certified Radical Forgiveness© Master coach creates an environment which allows clients to release anger, shame, and guilt. The result? An opportunity to live with joy in the present and the future.

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Benefits of Self-Awareness

Benefits of Self-Awareness

Self-Quiz: Are You “Too Busy”?

​Are you curious about self-awareness? Or do you feel like you have it down?

Some of us really like it and others not so much.

Yet, when we understand the benefits of self-awareness, that can be a game changer.

Here are some benefits of having self-awareness:

You know more about:
• Your values, strengths and weaknesses
• You understand your habits (good and not so good)
• You are more in acceptance of your “faults”
• You know your personality, thoughts and beliefs
• You know what motivates you

And this can bring more self-confidence and less comparison to others.

When we have a better understanding of ourselves, we are more empowered to make
changes and improvements in our lives instead of feeling that we are being victimized by life.

When we become self-aware, we get to create the life we want because it helps us to
realize our passions and where our thoughts and emotions are taking us on our path.
This way we get to pivot at any point to make the changes we want to make.

Without that awareness, you are letting life happen TO you and not FOR you. This can
make us feel more victimized by life instead of being the heroine in our journey.

Self-awareness is considered a vital first step in taking control of our lives so we can
create what we want and master our future.

Brenda Reiss

Brenda Reiss

Forgivness Coach
brendareisscoaching.com

about

Brenda Reiss

The author of “Forgive Yourself”, Brenda Reiss truly walks her talk. She discovered the power of self-forgiveness when a series of life events put her in a very dark place. Failed marriages, abuse, and severe health issues were just a few of the challenges she faced.

Determined to rewrite her story, Brenda sought answers – and found them in the concept of “radical forgiveness”.

What she learned changed her life forever.

Brenda is highly skilled at helping people find peace in their personal and professional lives. Coupling teachable techniques with forgiveness theory, this certified Radical Forgiveness© Master coach creates an environment which allows clients to release anger, shame, and guilt. The result? An opportunity to live with joy in the present and the future.

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Self-Quiz: Are You “Too Busy”?

Self-Quiz: Are You “Too Busy”?

Self-Quiz: Are You “Too Busy”?

Time is the great equalizer. Everybody gets the same amount: 24 hours in a day, 60 minutes in an hour. We can’t save time or accumulate or rearrange it. We can’t turn it off or on. It can’t be replaced.

But these days, it seems as if the lament of not having enough time has become a national anthem. Everywhere people find themselves constantly in a rush, over-booked and over-scheduled with no time off. Life is accompanied by the ongoing stress of not enough time. And sometimes doing too much and being too busy can be a way of numbing feelings or disguising depression or anger.

Though it may not always seem so, how we fill our time and how we spend it is our choice. Answer the following questions to discover if you’re caught up in the “too-busy” cycle.

I constantly find myself doing “urgent” things and trying to catch up.

  1. I allow myself to drift into obligations when I don’t know how much time or energy they’ll require.
  2. I find myself running from when I get up in the morning until I go to bed at night. I’m always tired and never feel like I accomplished enough.
  3. I seldom schedule a day off for myself and when I do, I tend to fill it with activities.
  4. I don’t make time for “self-care” activities: physical exercise, nurturing or “pampering” myself, cultural stimulation, spiritual well-being, learning something new, playing, or simply doing nothing.
  5. I seldom have time to do the things I really love.
  6. My work and project areas are cluttered with “I’ll look at this later” stacks and “to-do” piles.
  7. I often miscalculate how long certain activities will take.
  8. I often miss deadlines or work long hours to meet a deadline.
  9. I respond to interruptions such as phone calls, faxes, email, beepers and pagers, and allow them to take me off track.
  10. I try to keep things in my head rather than making lists. If I do make a daily “to-do” list, it’s impossible to complete in a day.
  11. I tend to move from one urgent thing to the next, rather than working toward specific goals and objectives.
  12. I find myself constantly wishing I had more time or projecting an imaginary future when I have more time, making comments such as “as soon as…” or “next year…”
  13. I spend time running errands and rushing because I didn’t plan well enough.
  14. I spend time doing things I could pay someone else to do.
  15. I often do things because I “should,” or continue to do things that no longer fit who I am.
  16. Other people complain that my schedule doesn’t allow enough time for them.

So now, take a breath and then another one. Just going through that list can cause anxiety yet that’s not what it’s meant for. The intention is to bring awareness to the crazy busy that we get ourselves in and usually without being aware of it. Our calendars and other people’s needs can run our lives.

Now that there is some awareness of one area or several, take some time and add yourself to your calendar. Yep. Right now. Not just exercise time. Some YOU time of writing, journaling, dreaming, planning something that you want to do. Even if it is only 20 minutes.

Next, make that time non-negotiable. You are important. Yes, we have families and clients and obligations but what if you were super sick and could not meet those obligations? Put the oxygen mask on yourself first.

Just a reminder that we all need including myself as we approach the holidays.

Here’s to some YOU time and a more relaxed day, week, month.

Brenda Reiss

Brenda Reiss

Forgivness Coach
brendareisscoaching.com

about

Brenda Reiss

The author of “Forgive Yourself”, Brenda Reiss truly walks her talk. She discovered the power of self-forgiveness when a series of life events put her in a very dark place. Failed marriages, abuse, and severe health issues were just a few of the challenges she faced.

Determined to rewrite her story, Brenda sought answers – and found them in the concept of “radical forgiveness”.

What she learned changed her life forever.

Brenda is highly skilled at helping people find peace in their personal and professional lives. Coupling teachable techniques with forgiveness theory, this certified Radical Forgiveness© Master coach creates an environment which allows clients to release anger, shame, and guilt. The result? An opportunity to live with joy in the present and the future.

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Accessing the Power of Gratitude

Accessing the Power of Gratitude

Accessing the Power of Gratitude

The practice of gratitude as a tool for happiness has been in the mainstream for years. Long-term studies support gratitude’s effectiveness, suggesting that a positive, appreciative attitude contributes to greater success in work, greater health, peak performance in sports and business, a higher sense of well-being, and a faster rate of recovery from surgery.

But while we may acknowledge gratitude’s many benefits, it still can be difficult to sustain. So many of us are trained to notice what is broken, undone or lacking in our lives. And for gratitude to meet its full healing potential in our lives, it needs to become more than just a Thanksgiving word. We have to learn a new way of looking at things, a new habit. And that can take some time.

That’s why practicing gratitude makes so much sense. When we practice giving thanks for all we have, instead of complaining about what we lack, we give ourselves the chance to see all of life as an opportunity and a blessing.

Remember that gratitude isn’t a blindly optimistic approach in which the bad things in life are whitewashed or ignored. It’s more a matter of where we put our focus and attention. Pain and injustice exist in this world, but when we focus on the gifts of life, we gain a feeling of well-being. Gratitude balances us and gives us hope.

There are many things to be grateful for: loved ones, legs that work, friends who listen and really hear, chocolate, food on our table, warm jackets, freedom, the ability to read, roses, our health, butterflies. What’s on your list?

Some Ways to Practice Gratitude

• Keep a gratitude journal in which you list things for which you are thankful. You can make daily, weekly or monthly lists. Greater frequency may be better for creating a new habit, but just keeping that journal where you can see it will remind you to think in a grateful way.

• Make a gratitude collage by drawing or pasting pictures.

• Practice gratitude around the dinner table or make it part of your nighttime routine.

• Make a game of finding the hidden blessing in a challenging situation.

• When you feel like complaining, make a gratitude list instead. You may be amazed by how much better you feel.

• Notice how gratitude is impacting your life. Write about it, sing about it, express thanks for gratitude.

As you practice, an inner shift begins to occur, and you may be delighted to discover how content and hopeful you are feeling. That sense of fulfillment is gratitude at work.

Brenda Reiss

Brenda Reiss

Forgivness Coach
brendareisscoaching.com

about

Brenda Reiss

The author of “Forgive Yourself”, Brenda Reiss truly walks her talk. She discovered the power of self-forgiveness when a series of life events put her in a very dark place. Failed marriages, abuse, and severe health issues were just a few of the challenges she faced.

Determined to rewrite her story, Brenda sought answers – and found them in the concept of “radical forgiveness”.

What she learned changed her life forever.

Brenda is highly skilled at helping people find peace in their personal and professional lives. Coupling teachable techniques with forgiveness theory, this certified Radical Forgiveness© Master coach creates an environment which allows clients to release anger, shame, and guilt. The result? An opportunity to live with joy in the present and the future.

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Love The One You’re With!

Love The One You’re With!

Love The One You’re With

When you look in the mirror what do you see?  Who do you see?

Can you look into those beautiful eyes looking back at you or do you skirt around those eyes just to see if your face is presentable?

I spent most of my life afraid to look in my own eyes for fear of what I would see.  The fear was of not being good enough.  That I was the mistake I was working hard not to be.  But I didn’t know that.

I just knew that I needed to look good.  Be good.  Do the right things.  Putting on the smile to hide the pain from the past I was deeply ashamed of.  The choices and decisions I had made that had me ridden with guilt. Thinking I was alone in all of this muck and that everyone else was better than me.  No one else was as unworthy as I was.

Today that is not the case.  When I look in the mirror I see a woman who is willing to accept her past as just that.  The past.  This way I can learn from it and not feel swallowed up by it.

Being willing to take responsibility for those choices and decisions I had already made gave me a shift in perception that I needed to be able to make the choices and decisions that I am currently making to fuel the life I want to create.

This is done through self-awareness.  As we learn to observe ourselves, we can change our thoughts, ideas and behaviors which begins our personal transformation.

Self-awareness means that we stop long enough to acknowledge who we see in the mirror.  The perfect you and the imperfect you.

We all have both sides to us which makes us works in progress.  All of us.

The challenge is to trust that perfect you.  The one you are at your core.  The one you are becoming.  

Here is a way to begin…

We’ve all heard of mirror work and some of us have tried it yet doing it this way can bring change.

Each day take 3 minutes and look into your eyes in the mirror.  Set your timer on your phone. You want to take the full 3 minutes.

  • Look into your eyes
  • What feelings arise?
  • Do you want to look away?  Do you look away?  Does it feel intense?
  • What are the thoughts that arise?  Does it sound like “this is stupid”, “of course i love myself.  I don’t need to do this”.
  • Stay there a little longer
  • Does your mind start to calm down?
  • How about those feelings?  Is there sadness, grief, joy, peace, calm?

Practice this every day for 7 days and see how you feel.  I encourage you to keep going until you can look at yourself and feel peace, even love.

Learning to love yourself in all your complexity can be challenging and so worth it.  Cherishing yourself for all you’ve experienced and the potential yet to come.

The magic lies in loving the one you’re with…you!

Brenda Reiss

Brenda Reiss

Forgivness Coach
brendareisscoaching.com

about

Brenda Reiss

The author of “Forgive Yourself”, Brenda Reiss truly walks her talk. She discovered the power of self-forgiveness when a series of life events put her in a very dark place. Failed marriages, abuse, and severe health issues were just a few of the challenges she faced.

Determined to rewrite her story, Brenda sought answers – and found them in the concept of “radical forgiveness”.

What she learned changed her life forever.

Brenda is highly skilled at helping people find peace in their personal and professional lives. Coupling teachable techniques with forgiveness theory, this certified Radical Forgiveness© Master coach creates an environment which allows clients to release anger, shame, and guilt. The result? An opportunity to live with joy in the present and the future.

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