How To Love Living Alone

How To Love Living Alone

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You may not have pictured yourself living alone when you were younger but based on changing
life circumstances you find yourself on your own. Many women find themselves living alone
today, either by choice or due to their spouse’s/partner’s death or even more commonly, divorce.
The good news is that you’re not really alone, as more women are living independently and
loving it! There are a lot of reasons that living alone is actually a great place to find yourself.

If you are not thrilled about being solo how can you learn to love living alone? Easy! Just check
out some of the reasons living alone is an incredible opportunity for independence and growth!

You Get To Enjoy Your Alone Time!

Research shows that women simply ‘do’ better when living alone. Studies find that when women
live alone, they feel relaxed and they actually like being completely alone. Living alone means
you get time to yourself, to do what you want, and you can live life on your terms. This is such a
phenomenon that there’s a movement in which committed couples are even living alone, together
(termed LAT) and finding much fulfillment in being part of relationships that still end up with
you getting the bed all to yourself at night.

It’s Easier to Make and Keep Friends.

Research also finds that women are better at ‘friendship’ than men are, and it’s a lot easier to do
what you want to do with your friends when you don’t feel obligated to the needs and wants of
another. Having no one to answer to when making your own plans means you get to nurture
friendships with time and experiences, and you don’t worry about emotional obligations to a
partner.

When You Live Alone, You Do What YOU Want To Do.

Let’s face it, women shoulder the majority of the workload, particularly at home. Living with a
partner often means that you follow traditional roles, and those traditional roles have always
meant you were doing the lion’s share of the work. Solo living means you only take care of
yourself. If there’s a towel lying on the floor? You put it there and if you want to leave it there,
you can! No worrying about the unfair load of responsibilities when you’re on your own.

You Can Live The Life You Want To Live

When you’re living alone, you really are living for yourself. There’s power in solitude, and you
can decorate how you want, eat how you want, watch or listen to whatever you want, and there’s
no one to answer to but yourself. Women who love living alone find that they’re able to explore,
travel, and adventure more than before. They also find that they don’t feel pressured by time or
people to do anything they don’t want to do. There’s power in knowing you’re in charge of the
life you want to live.

When you’re living alone, the world really is your oyster. Living alone means you have space,
time and motivation to do what YOU really want to do, and you’ll find that it’ll be easy to fill
those ‘lonely’ times with people and things you really want around you. It’s the opportunity to
focus on your wants, needs and the life you want to lead.

Setting Goals For 2020
Karen Rae

Karen Rae

Owner, Fave Lifestyles
www.FaveLifestyles.com

about

Karen Rae

I was becoming an empty nester, a woman of a more interesting age and in transition. Sound familiar? I was at that place where we question our purpose, value, and worth and what in the world are we going to do with the rest of our lives.

I noticed women have a huge hunger to belong to a community of women where they can feel safe, share openly from their heart and have other women to do life with! This is why I created my Fave Lifestyles.

Fave is for the woman who wants to call Fave her community of women who support, uplift, and make her feel better about herself. I want to create a place where we help her answer life's questions and just do life together!

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Purple Couch with Vickie Adair

Purple Couch with Vickie Adair

Vickie Adair sits down with Karen on the Purple Couch to discuss the walk back from the “pit of despair”. Vickie’s story starts at the darkest point in her life when everything seemed to be crashing around her. She tells the story of leaning on the word of God and relying on His wisdom and guidance to get back to her life.

Join Karen Rae and Vickie Adair on the purple couch, a conversation with real women about real life!

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How To Create New Relationships With Your Adult Children

How To Create New Relationships With Your Adult Children

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According to the AARP, divorce rates have nearly doubled since the 1990s. This means that
more women are finding themselves in different roles in mid-life. Additionally, this can change
the dynamics of their relationships with their adult children as often it feels like there are ‘sides’
and everyone has to choose one.

Even if you’re not widowed or divorced, you may find that the relationships you have with your
adult children are not as fulfilling as you hoped they might be. Creating new relationships with
your adult children takes work, and we’ve got a few tips on how to rejuvenate those family
bonds.

They’re Not Kids Anymore

It’s often said that getting older is not for sissies! Truer words have never been spoken. As we get
older, we may find it difficult to view our adult children as adults. We still see them as the
adorable little girls and boys with milk mustaches and silly Halloween costumes. While the years
may pass quickly, letting go gets harder and harder.

Whether you find you need to create new relationships with your adult children because of the
death of/divorce from your partner, or you simply need to get used to the idea that they’re not
kids anymore, it takes work. The most important thing you can do is recognize this and then
move into action to create new relationships with your children.

Divorce and Death Add New Dimensions

When you and your partner divorce, or your partner dies, the relationship with your adult
children changes. You might experience anger from your adult children, as they’re not sure why
the divorce happened. Or, they may be angry if they find out you just stayed in the marriage ‘for
their sake,’ because they’ll feel like so much of their life wasn’t what they thought it was.

Or, if you’re in a different dynamic with your children because your spouse or partner has died,
you may find that they immediately want to take the reigns and begin ‘parenting’ you. This can
be endearing at first, but frustrating as you’re still capable of taking care of yourself.

In these cases, the most important thing you can do is communicate with your adult children. Let
them know that you understand their feelings, and you want to validate them. Let them know that
you won’t speak badly about their other parent, nor will you lean too heavily on them in the event
of the death of their other parent, as you know they’re grieving too. Communication is key when
establishing new relationships with your adult children.

Grow Together!

While divorce and death do uniquely affect your relationships with your adult children, simply
the nature of their growing up and becoming adults makes it imperative you create new
relationships with them.

You have to learn to let go of wanting to parent each step they take, and you have to learn to hold
back when they’re finding their footing in this world they’re navigating. Even if you’re not
divorced, or your partner hasn’t died, your relationships with your children will change because
you are all adults doing adult things. Remember that now, as the mother to adult children, your
advice is just that—advice. They’re no longer expected to take it simply because you say so, and
so a little trusting encouragement goes a long way.

Recognize that instead of losing the little ones they were, you’ve now been given these amazing
adults to bond with and grow with. Embrace the new relationships by allowing them to grow
organically. Life changes whether are ready or not and creating new relationships with our adult
children is one of the privileges that comes with change. Embrace them and bloom with them;
who better to do so with than the amazing children you raised?

Setting Goals For 2020
Karen Rae

Karen Rae

Owner, Fave Lifestyles
www.FaveLifestyles.com

about

Karen Rae

I was becoming an empty nester, a woman of a more interesting age and in transition. Sound familiar? I was at that place where we question our purpose, value, and worth and what in the world are we going to do with the rest of our lives.

I noticed women have a huge hunger to belong to a community of women where they can feel safe, share openly from their heart and have other women to do life with! This is why I created my Fave Lifestyles.

Fave is for the woman who wants to call Fave her community of women who support, uplift, and make her feel better about herself. I want to create a place where we help her answer life's questions and just do life together!

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How To Set Boundaries In Your Relationships

How To Set Boundaries In Your Relationships

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As women, setting boundaries in relationships may not come easy. We’re often used to
doing all, being all and giving all to others, and at the risk of losing ourselves in the
process.

That leads to a drain on our emotions and our energy and hinders the development of
quality relationships. Here are a few tips on how to set boundaries in your relationships.

Why Set Boundaries In Your Relationships?

Healthy relationships of any kind have boundaries. A healthy relationship boundary is a
line where you end, and the other person sort of begins. Without those boundaries
being clearly defined, the people in the relationship may be confused and suffer from
emotional distress.

Boundaries in relationships show a commitment to mutual respect for feelings and
opinions. Healthy relationship boundaries set expectations for how you want to be
treated, and how you’ll treat the other person in the relationship. Whether it’s with your
partner/spouse, your children, your friends or your coworkers, relationship boundaries
protect you and also allow you to have deep, meaningful connection with the other
person.

How To Set Boundaries In Your Relationships

1. Know Your Needs.

Your needs in a relationship matter, but you can’t expect someone to know them or
understand them if you don’t know and understand them yourself. Be self-aware and
know your likes and dislikes. Know what things you want from your relationships and
what you don’t want and won’t tolerate. Plan on how you want to be treated, and how
you’ll treat the other person within the relationship.

2. Communicate Your Needs.

Again, you can’t expect others to understand your needs in a relationship if they’re not
aware of them. When you’re setting up boundaries in relationships, it’s vital that you
communicate those needs to the other person/people. You can’t expect people to read
your mind, and you need to be clear and direct about your needs and expectations.
Most of the boundary-crossing that happens in relationships is because one person was
not clear and direct about their needs and their boundaries. Communication is key!

3. Manage Expectations.

Just as it’s important for you to communicate your needs, it’s vital for you to manage the
expectations of the other people in your relationships. An important part of setting up
boundaries in relationships is managing the expectations of others. This means you’ll
have to ask them about their expectations and needs, and you’ll have to decide if
they’re ones you find acceptable and with which you can work. If you feel a family
member is taking advantage of your kindness or generosity, talk to them about what
they expect from you and whether or not you can meet their need. Managing the
expectations of others is the best way to respect the boundaries of any relationship, and
to help ensure that your relationship boundaries are not breached either.

4. Know Your Limits

It’s often ingrained upon us that we give, give, give even if that means that we give all of
ourselves and leave nothing. You don’t have to be the super woman of your
relationships. They should be about give and take, and if you’re doing way more of the
giving than you are of the taking, it’s okay for you to set boundary lines for how much
you’re comfortable giving. It’s easy to burn out of relationships in which the boundaries
are too often crossed, but if you know your limits and are ready to exercise them, this
will happen far less.

We sometimes feel like setting up boundaries in relationships sounds harsh, but that
couldn’t be less true. Healthy relationships need boundaries in order for all the involved
parties to thrive. Consider setting up boundaries in relationships an investment in
yourself and others, as doing so allows you to enjoy your relationships to the fullest.

For more great articles about relationships on Fave.com check out these articles:

5 Ways to tell if you have forgiven someone
Let’s Talk Relationships
4 Things to Look for in Authentic Relationships

Setting Goals For 2020
Karen Rae

Karen Rae

Owner, Fave Lifestyles
www.FaveLifestyles.com

about

Karen Rae

I was becoming an empty nester, a woman of a more interesting age and in transition. Sound familiar? I was at that place where we question our purpose, value, and worth and what in the world are we going to do with the rest of our lives.

I noticed women have a huge hunger to belong to a community of women where they can feel safe, share openly from their heart and have other women to do life with! This is why I created my Fave Lifestyles.

Fave is for the woman who wants to call Fave her community of women who support, uplift, and make her feel better about herself. I want to create a place where we help her answer life's questions and just do life together!

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Things to Do When You Feel Lonely

Things to Do When You Feel Lonely

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There’s a misnomer that being alone means you’re lonely. So often, that’s not the case.
Many people really enjoy solitude and quiet. There are times when everyone feels alone
in this big world. When that happens, there are lots of things you can do to alleviate
those feelings.

Make Plans

When you feel alone, make plans with someone! Whether it’s a new friend from church,
your adult kids, your neighbor down the street—who it is matters not as much as that
you’re planning to do something with someone. Making plans for future engagements
gives you something to look forward to, and helps you remember you’re not really alone
in the world.

Eliminate Negative Thoughts

When we’re alone, it’s really easy to feel lonely. It’s also easy to feel sorry for ourselves
that we’re alone. Instead of letting those negative thoughts take us, kick them out and
instead replace them with positive ones that remind you of how lucky you are. Go to
your local department store and just walk around and smile at people as you walk.
Sounds silly, but nothing gets you away from feeling alone like being around other
people who appreciate your smiles and positivity and return it to you.

Join A Hobby Group

Now is an incredible time to join a hobby group and meet other like-minded people. In
this day and age, you can find a group of people who meet around just about any
lifestyle or hobby. Always loved beautiful pictures and art? Join a photography club or
sign up for your local wine & design class to learn how to paint.

You could also consider joining groups where there are more people of your age so you
have a network of people you can contact when you’re feeling lonely. Whether it’s an
exercise class at your local YMCA or volunteering with your local soup kitchen, meeting
and gathering with people who have similar likes and lifestyles will remind you you’re
not alone at all!

Do Something For Yourself

Sometimes, when you feel alone, you may not be taking the best care of yourself.
Consider getting a massage or a facial to make you feel better about yourself. Look at
your wardrobe and see if there’s something you could donate so that you can go find
something to freshen your current style up with a bit. Taking care of yourself takes the
focus off of being alone and puts that alone time to great use!

Explore

When you feel alone, get out into this big world and explore! Go somewhere new. You
might be surprised at whom you run into! Even if you have lived in the same city for
years, look at your location as a tourist and get out and see what your city has to offer.

Consider A Pet

If you don’t have a pet, consider getting one. Pets can help keep us healthier and living
longer. There’s nothing cuter than a puppy or kitten snuggling up on your lap for a nice
nap, is there? Walking dogs also gets you outside where other people may be, and you
can join a whole new network of pet parents!

It’s inevitable that sometimes we may feel alone, but when you do, there are lots of
things you can do to curb that feeling. Whether you meet new people or just get out and
about, take a chance on doing something for yourself and feel alone no more!

For more great info about feeling alone check out these Fave articles:

Winter Sadness
How to Find Purpose After Divorce
Love the One Your With!

Setting Goals For 2020
Karen Rae

Karen Rae

Owner, Fave Lifestyles
www.FaveLifestyles.com

about

Karen Rae

I was becoming an empty nester, a woman of a more interesting age and in transition. Sound familiar? I was at that place where we question our purpose, value, and worth and what in the world are we going to do with the rest of our lives.

I noticed women have a huge hunger to belong to a community of women where they can feel safe, share openly from their heart and have other women to do life with! This is why I created my Fave Lifestyles.

Fave is for the woman who wants to call Fave her community of women who support, uplift, and make her feel better about herself. I want to create a place where we help her answer life's questions and just do life together!

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