Step 2: MAKE A DECISION BEFOREHAND:
a. Look at the menu before you go.
b. Ask what will be served before you go.
c. Then make a written plan before you go.
Yes, write down what you’ll eat and what you will CHOOSE NOT to eat.
This helps your brain follow through and build’s trust within yourself. d. And do it with this thought in mind: I’m learning to have my back with food.
Step 3: If your brain thinks, yeah whatever, “have my back with food” “I just want to eat all the things…I want to blow it!!!” STOP.
Then give your brain 90 seconds to deep breathe to comfort itself.
Don’t put anything in your mouth.
And ask yourself what type of comfort or need you are wanting that you’re trying to fill with food.
If you feel calm and in control after the 90 seconds, awesome. Stick to your eating plan.
If not, breathe for another 90 seconds then ask:
Ask: What need am I trying to fill deep inside with this food?
How can I comfort and calm myself without food now?
IF YOU’RE NOT SURE…
One option is to envision yourself as a child and when she first felt this way.
Then envision giving her a hug and telling her what she wanted to hear then.
“I love you”. “I’m here for you”. “I’m not leaving you”. “I’ve got your back”.
Let it in.
Take 4 deep, slow breaths and…
Repeat if necessary.
And so you are aware….
You’re not alone…this is a human brain wiring thing.
We all need comforting.
And when we need comforting…
It’s usually ONE OF THE FOLLOWING NEEDS THAT IS GOING UNMET when you think you’re going to “BLOW IT”:
A. NEED FOR CONNECTION/LOVE/COMFORT B. NEED FOR “CONTROL” OR SAFETY C. NEED TO FEEL ENOUGH (ENOUGH TIME, $$, RESOURCES, DONE ENOUGH) D. NEED TO FEEL WORTHY E. NEED FOR RELAXATION/REST/SLEEP F. NEED FOR FUN/ CREATIVITY/CREATION/VARIETY/ADVENTURE G. NEED FOR EXPRESSION (IS THERE SOMETHING YOU’RE NOT SAYING OR DOING OR OWNING) H. NEED FOR LEARNING AND GROWTH I. NEED FOR HEALING, FORGIVENESS
(Because you are sad, grieving, lonely or have past wounds that you ruminate on) J. NEED FOR JOY/FULFILMENT/PURPOSE
These are just a few of the background unmet needs and emotional stressors that most don’t realize are driving the “I’m afraid I’m going to blow it” mentality.
Kind of fascinating huh?
This is what I help my clients do in my 6-month Emotional Freedom Weight-Loss Program.
We unlock & heal their Unique Emotional Stress & Unmet Needs Patterns so they no longer run the show and drive them to “blow it” with food.
And then they create Emotional Freedom from food!. And you can too.
p.s. If you’re ready to stop the “I’m going to blow it self-sabotage cycle with food”
AND…you’re ready to be done with Emotional Eating and Peri/Menopausal Weight Gain for the LAST TIME…
THE BEST WAY to do that is to hire me as your coach.
I WILL help you solve this for the last time. I guarantee it.
MESSAGE ME TODAY to start that process with a complimentary coaching strategy consult call NOW.
Certified Life & Weight Loss Coach | Certified Relationship and Healing Coach | Public Speaker | Workshop Leader
I help women over 50-ish+ Create Freedom from Emotional Overeating, Lose up to 50lbs and fall in love with their aging bodies so they can use that energy once consumed by all the harsh voices about their weight and bodies to live the life they really want to be living.
In her 6-month, 1:1, online coaching program, Candy has helped dozens and dozens of mid-life women who struggle with weight gain as they hit middle age no longer struggle with sugar addiction, heal their relationships with food, with their aging bodies, their minds, their emotions, and their lives. She’s helped them free up all that emotional and mental energy they used to use to beat themselves up about food to now start businesses, get promotions and raises, get married in mid-life, and heal their relationships with their grown children, with their partners, siblings, parents and friends.
When she’s not loving on and serving her clients, from Bellevue, WA, you’ll either find her walking and laughing with her hubby, John, who is her hero, along the gorgeous lake view trails (when it’s not raining) or pretending she’s on Broadway singing musical tunes in the house and car.
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