From my “Fave” Chair to yours! Pt. 2

From my “Fave” Chair to yours! Pt. 2

Stand up! Sit down!   Do you have days where there is so much on your plate?  Responsible for too many people, places or things?   I had one of those days the other day, and I could not seem to decide where to start.  I had the list going, you know the one, on paper & getting longer.

Or there was the one in my head that said, You need to do …. ! You should be doing…..! and  what are you doing?? 

Confusion!  From out of no where came a strong voice that said …”SIT DOWN!!”     Whoa, where did that come from.   It’s good to have a favorite chair on the days where the best thing you can do for yourself is “SIT DOWN”!.    Good cup of coffee/tea or a glass of wine helps too.

Once in the favorite chair, I found new thoughts and clarity.   Business is good!  What is the issue?  I was reminded of the people that I’m surrounded with who are supporting me.  That’s a reason to relax and reach out & read the articles they have published.  Inspiration to help with the chaos of the moment.

Thank you! Marcelle, Karen H., Elisa & Karen R.  The encouraging words you offer up for inspiring change. 

I’m also inspired by my 4 year old Grandson, who say’s “Grandma, let’s sit here & play your computer”   He likes to sit with me & play games on my computer.  Our special moment has a way of coming into my thoughts on a day when all seems too much.  Lets just take time to enjoy the moments.

  • Sit down in your favorite chair
  • Take a deep Breath
  • Recall the support group in your world
  • Smile, truth is some days are just too much.
  • Remember all good moments

I have also found encouragement in listening to audio presentation from inspiring people like Brene’ Brown. Wonderful talks on the topics of

  • Courage
  • Vulnerability
  • Shame
  • Empathy
  • Trust

 

From my Fave Chair to Yours! These Ideas I share to encourage you.  Cheers, Teresa

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Teresa Barthol -Managing Broker with eXp Realty Seattle.  Brings 22 plus years’ experience to consult with clients about real estate in the 3rd and 4th quarters of their lives. .  With longevity in Real Estate Teresa loves to share her optimistic problem solving skills, creative out of the box thinking along with her enthusiasm for great outcomes. “Believe,” she will say, your desires in life will be realized. Teresa focuses on Lifestyles to Live within the four walls you call home.

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Moving Mom & Dad or…. Mom & Dad Moving….?? Who is in charge??

Moving Mom & Dad or…. Mom & Dad Moving….?? Who is in charge??

This topic of Moving Mom & Dad is one I have spoken on to groups in Retirement Centers, YMCA’s, Special interest clubs, and to my circle of clients and friends. 

The whole idea of Moving is overwhelming!  I speak from experience as a Realtor who is witness to the stress produced in the process, my personal experience of moving 12 times in my adult life, and the recent experience with my own parents in the process of their life transitions into Care communities.

Mom & Dad moving in the 3rd quarter of their life is the one that brings stress to the entire family in a way no other move impacts us.  It’s often & experience involving long established family dynamics.  Moving from the family home is not emotionally easy at any point.

I’ve been thinking about Sara Kay, a poet of the spoken word.  I first fell in love with her work when she did a TED talk    “If I should have a daughter…”

I have listened to that production more than once & with several people as well.  It’s a gem in my opinion and maybe it relates to this idea of moving Mom & Dad.   It’s about the love we wrap up in relationships and expectations too.  It’s a hard thing to move from being a daughter to be the Mother.  Remembering that the Mother doesn’t think she should be displaced in her Mother Role. 

My Dad was easy about things, not too attached to any house or stuff.  Well, maybe the tools.

My Mother was forced to live alone early on as my Dad needed more care then she could provide him with at home.  There was a loneliness about that time & the daughter advise was not the most welcome conversation.    That’s what I find with clients and friends that talk about the experience too.  Not the most welcome conversation.  It is a conversation to procrastinate about for sure.

To take note from Sara Kay’s   poetry.  If Love was the first thought!

To do what my husband & I do when things get crazy.  Its from Sara Kay’s poem we found the words.  “What Three things do we know for sure” From that clarity, we can begin to take the challenge and see it from the life of the Mom who sits alone at home with her little doggy, reflecting back on life and what is next for her.

My Mom passed away earlier this year and the question was asked of me recently.  What do you wish you could have had conversations about?  That’s a tuff question.  What I know for sure are three things.

  • Mom loved her daughter (me) & I loved her
  • She wanted to be in charge of everything to the day she died.
  • For all our (my brothers & myself) attempts to change things, she did not let go until it was too late to deliver the messages that were deep in her heart.

What Three things do you know for sure?  Share your heart with your Mom, I say!    Feel free to reach out if you want to discuss any aspect of the process, I’m happy to listen & provide resources for you. 

Warm hugs to those in this time with parents.

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Teresa Barthol -Managing Broker with eXp Realty Seattle.  Brings 22 plus years’ experience to consult with clients about real estate in the 3rd and 4th quarters of their lives. .  With longevity in Real Estate Teresa loves to share her optimistic problem solving skills, creative out of the box thinking along with her enthusiasm for great outcomes. “Believe,” she will say, your desires in life will be realized. Teresa focuses on Lifestyles to Live within the four walls you call home.

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An Inspired Lifestyle

An Inspired Lifestyle

An inspiring Lifestyle choice I toured this past weekend.  www.selahvistahomes.com

My husband & I have had a plan to visit this development for some time & yesterday was the day.  Years ago, we built an energy conscious designed home in Minnesota. My husband Michael is an Architect, and it was his dream to design & build this home, and so we did.   Our experience Building that home was prior to me starting my Real Estate career and before we moved to the Northwest for Michaels work. A terrific experience and a home that was difficult to leave. Opportunity and the Northwest captured our future, and here we are some 30+ years later.

The tour at Selah Vista was a true inspiration!  We are ready to move in!  

Selah Vista homes is a 16 -acre Built Green 5-Star Planned Neighborhood Development in the Yakima, WA area.  A total of 60 homes at completion, many of them with expansive territorial views. A combination of home styles to include single family, cottages, duplex townhomes, and custom homes.  A 2-acre community space including wheelchair accessible perimeter nature trails, natural playground, drought-tolerant native plantings, and other healthy features and amenities.  

The excitement we had for the project relates to a lifestyle we love to live! One where the features of the home are luxurious, healthy indoor air and water, lots of natural sunlight, solar power system, Smart Home technology, constructed with low maintenance materials, and the use of reclaimed and recycled green products.

The homes certifications include Built Green 5 Star Standards, EPA Net Zero Standards, EPA Air Plus.

Personally, as a Realtor I want to move everyone into homes like we toured in Selah, WA.  Why? 

A Healthy Lifestyle choice for one!  From the air, you breathe to the water you drink, floors you stand on, appliances you use, and the roof overhead   it’s crucial what surrounds our lives every day. I believe our homes should serve our desired lifestyle, including our health and long-term well-being.  With all the care taken by Selah Vista Homes Architect, Designer, Builder and Realtor (Brenda Nunes with Keller Williams Realty) to use materials that limited the VOC’s and have been vetted as non-toxic, you can be comforted in breathing fresh, clean air. Relaxing in what surrounds you every day.  I love maintenance costs reduced by the materials used, the heating and cooling costs by the use of insulated R-47 walls, R-52 ceiling, R-20 foundation, plus the use of solar. The cost savings for your health care, the running of the home, maintenance is calculated to save a homeowner in the range of $3,000-$5,000 a year. That might be conservative in my mind.  

Have you considered” Net Zero” or “Built Green” Living?  I would love to introduce you to these innovative designs, ones that are built to be sustainable over 100 years and prove to be an excellent investment as well as a wonderful Lifestyle for today. 

 www.lifestylestolive.com  

Look for 811 Selah Vista Way, Selah, WA 98942

Reach out, let Michael, and I share our excitement with you.

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Teresa Barthol -Managing Broker with eXp Realty Seattle.  Brings 22 plus years’ experience to consult with clients about real estate in the 3rd and 4th quarters of their lives. .  With longevity in Real Estate Teresa loves to share her optimistic problem solving skills, creative out of the box thinking along with her enthusiasm for great outcomes. “Believe,” she will say, your desires in life will be realized. Teresa focuses on Lifestyles to Live within the four walls you call home.

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From my “Fave” Chair to yours! Pt. 2

From my “Fave” Chair to yours!

With a favorite beverage, let us take a moment in our favorite chair.   A little silly? I don’t know about you but, my favorite chair is a little worn out, with a few stains, but, its cozy.

It’s a warm afternoon, sun streaming in the windows.  I love my house, its perfect for us. Mike & I moved in seven years ago.  On the golf course with a view from my chair! Love it! Its from this place that I have had many long conversations with myself, my husband, family and friends. It’s from this favorite place that I have contemplated the four walls that surround me.  Do you do that? Sit & look around at the pictures on the wall, the window treatments, the paint color? It’s from this chair I watch that HGTV show or take in some of those amazing series on Prime or Netflix. It’s a happy place, cozy, and safe. Our to do list exists and we get to it when time & money permit.  Someday, all this may not be true & it will be time to make a change.

I have been a Realtor for some twenty-two years. Moving some 14 times from one state to another.  Yikes, I do not want to move again. A career hazard for me to keep looking and comparing my home to others. Every once in a while, I get the itch to move again until my husband reigns me in.  I believe, we are pretty ordinary here in our home. It usually takes an entertaining event to get us to get seriously into picking things up, cleaning & getting organized. Adventure may overtake this conversation some day and we like some of my clients may consider a move to Spain, Mexico, Arizona, Eastern Washington or the sunny Sequim.  Opportunities are out there for a Lifestyle that just might be exciting, I think. How about you, do you have adventures left un realized?

How often do you take time to contemplate the four walls you occupy?  As part of my work I tour many homes and see many lifestyles. From the most amazing homes to some of the saddest, I have sort of seen it all.   Often, I hear from people “I bet you have seen all kinds of homes & situations over the years” I say, yes its true. I love Real Estate and the opportunity to work with all this diversity.  

This year I started a new focus on “Lifestyles to Live” with the energy that I believe is needed to help clients focus on the elements of their home that brings them financial wealth, security, comfort, and much joy & satisfaction.  When we take time to consider how our current home serves us, we could ask the following:

Do these four walls? Give me Joy! Happiness in my favorite chair?

Is it the home I dreamed of? Is it Safe?

Its good to take time to contemplate the answers and a helpful to find others to talk to about what is on your mind.  

My question from my chair is … what I want the 3rd & 4th quarters of my life to look like.  What do I want my money to be spent on?   Is there an adventure to take? I’m excited to join in the ‘Fave lifestyles” vision and have conversations with others about how to play out this phase of life. There are some great opportunities for us to share, collaborate, and grow in.  Be proactive I say! Bring your questions, share that time with me.

From my chair to yours!

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Teresa Barthol -Managing Broker with eXp Realty Seattle.  Brings 22 plus years’ experience to consult with clients about real estate in the 3rd and 4th quarters of their lives. .  With longevity in Real Estate Teresa loves to share her optimistic problem solving skills, creative out of the box thinking along with her enthusiasm for great outcomes. “Believe,” she will say, your desires in life will be realized. Teresa focuses on Lifestyles to Live within the four walls you call home.

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Conversations with parents

Conversations with parents

It was some time in the summer of 2013 that I sat at the kitchen table with a family wanting to list their home for sale with me.  I have been a Realtor since 1997 and this day in 2013 changed the direction of my career. Since that day I have been on a mission to understand and serve clients who are in the over 55 age group.  I started by my research and study by going to the Realtors Association and taking a class that earned me the credentials of an “SRES” Senior Real Estate Specialist.

What was going on that day in 2013?  I was invited to a “List my Home” consultation with a family who had occupied their home for some 30 years, it was a beautiful, the kind you walk into & walls tell you “love has been shared here”.  The wife did most of the talking with her husband & her son by her side. She did not want to move or make any changes; this was the lifelong home. I often hear that statement, “we plan to stay here tell we die” Statistics, tell us that about 30% of us actually get that opportunity. Sad but, true.  To move was not in their plans, but it was time. Her husband who was a very successful business owner, community minded, wonderful husband, father and grandfather was now being challenged to remember where he was some days. I don’t know exactly was his medical diagnosis was but, he was not the person in charge like his family knew him.   His wife & son wanted me to keep him in the loop of all paperwork & include him in all conversations. Their respect for him was obvious. Legally they had the Power of Attorney to sign and act on his behalf but, as long as he could sign, that is what we were going to do. It took patience on all our parts to walk him through the process and some days when I would visit their home, he wondered why I was there.  

Have you had this experience with family or friends or in your own household? The Moment where everything changes and because of it everything else needs to change.  Moving from the family home, medical care, new location for wife and separate for husband. Thankfully, in this case all the family members were chipping in & help surrounded Mom & Dad.  I’m sure we all know, all too well, that this is not always the case.

Since 2013 I have visited most all the Senior living communities in the Puget Sound Region, developed relationships with care givers, move managers, contractors, senior centers, Elder Law Attorneys, Financial advisors.  Creating a trusted group of recourses to help clients in this 3rd and 4th quarter of life.   It continues to be the direction as a Managing Broker working at EXp Realty, I see myself as a Life Style consultant who brings value to the conversations about when to sell and where to go and what are the options.  I know from experience that when we can have positive and open conversations with our parents, our spouse & our family & friends, the outcome is more satisfying for all. If you would like some tips on what to say or ask and how to get the conversation going, reach out to me.  I will send you a booklet called “The Conversation Starter Kit” or you can go to https://theconversationproject.org/starter-kits/

There are many forms of Dementia and according to one of the Senior Care providers I met with to tour an Alzheimer care community, the multitude of diagnosis continues. From my own personal experience, my mother in-law, my father, & several friends needed our loving guidance while they struggled with the difficulty’s life presented them with. My heart goes out to anyone experiencing health changes in their lives.  I see my job as being the one to show up, offer calm support, have conversations about what is next with the family home & where are the resources needed to make the changes to be safe & secure & live out a lifestyle that is filled with love, respect, and joy!

https://sres.realtor/work-sres-designee/why-use-sres

SRES® designees have unparalleled training and experience in seniors real estate, including:

  • Helping you manage the financial and emotional challenges of selling a long-held family home
  • Creating a customized plan to market and sell your property
  • Understanding your unique needs and creating a customized plan to ensure your home meets those needs now and, in the future,
  • Utilizing specialized knowledge in reverse mortgages, 401(k) accounts, and IRAs for your real estate transaction
  • Connecting you with their vast network of movers, attorneys, home inspectors, and other experts to help you through the process

How can I help?  Reach out! I’m happy for the conversations to sort through the solutions.

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Teresa Barthol

 

Teresa Barthol -Managing Broker with eXp Realty Seattle.  Brings 22 plus years’ experience to consult with clients about real estate in the 3rd and 4th quarters of their lives. .  With longevity in Real Estate Teresa loves to share her optimistic problem solving skills, creative out of the box thinking along with her enthusiasm for great outcomes. “Believe,” she will say, your desires in life will be realized. Teresa focuses on Lifestyles to Live within the four walls you call home.

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