From My Fave Chair to Yours!

From My Fave Chair to Yours!

From My Fave Chair to Yours!

Tell me about your Favorite Chair? It is a question I posted on Facebook recently. A few responses
came in on the subject, which got me thinking of the places I have been where there has been a Favorite
Chair combined with memorable conversations.

A good friend from our home state of Minnesota wrote, “you know my Favorite chair”. Meaning, I have
been there a number of times on her patio in those awesome &comfortable rocking chairs. We could sit
for hours in conversation as we have been friends for many years & experiences. A cherished friendship
I’m so thankful for.

Another friend reminded me she loves that sofa! She is an avid reader & loves to escape in books & cozy
up into her sofa with a comfy cover. We share adventures together & those book recommendations.
She is the friend that may have moved even more then I have. The perspective and challenges of
moving some 14 times or more, needs friends who understand the uniqueness of moving that many
times. Our favorite chairs are ever moving to coffee shops or restaurants where we share great
conversations. A cherished friendship, I’m so thankful for.

Yesterday I sat with a friend at her home talking about Real Estate. We have years of working together
as colleges. We enjoy sharing our knowledge and challenges of our profession. I have so much respect
for her & the journey she is taking in her life. We share a Commitment to providing a high level of
service and care for our clients. It was a joy to sit in her newly remodeled kitchen enjoying her backyard
view. Like sitting in the park. A time to relax, laugh & tell stories. A cherished friendship, I’m so
thankful for.

I’m looking forward to sitting by the pool in Arizona & in California as I take some winter trips to find sun
& warmth. It is a joy to be welcomed into there homes in the sunshine states and to sit in those favorite
lounge chairs by the pool each day with morning coffee or wine in the evening. Sharing long
conversations about our lives. Friendships I am so thankful for.

Washington State Park in Anacortes is one of my favorite walks to do with friends. Many times with
friends I have walked those trails and then stopped to sit on the benches overlooking the islands,
mountains and waters we are so fortunate to have surrounding us here in the Northwest. That bench
has no doubt been witness to many conversations. Its an inspiring place to sit with friends. I love those
days with friends in that location.

Recently I went to see the Mr Rogers movie. It was a wonderful movie & brought on lots of memories of
watching the Mr Rogers shows with my sons. What I liked most about the movie is the scene where Mr
Rogers asks his friend to close his eyes & remember all the people that have “loved’ him into the person
he is today. Quietly, with eyes closed, I thought about that question.

Mr Rogers movie inspired my thoughts for this article. What relationships have loved you into being
who you are today?

Where can you visualize loving conversations and a Fave Chair! May your day be filled with time &
places you cherish.

Teresa Barthol

Teresa Barthol

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Teresa Barthol -Managing Broker with eXp Realty Seattle.  Brings 22 plus years’ experience to consult with clients about real estate in the 3rd and 4th quarters of their lives. .  With longevity in Real Estate Teresa loves to share her optimistic problem solving skills, creative out of the box thinking along with her enthusiasm for great outcomes. “Believe,” she will say, your desires in life will be realized. Teresa focuses on Lifestyles to Live within the four walls you call home.

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Reasons Mom and Dad are more Vulnerable to Scams

Reasons Mom and Dad are more Vulnerable to Scams

Reasons Mom and Dad are more Vulnerable to Scams

Mom and Dad are getting older in your eyes, and many things are starting to show up that
concern you. Here are some Reasons that Seniors are more Vulnerable to Scams and some
things you can watch out for and talk over with your parents.

Computer Innocence, Seniors were not raised with computers and can be less savvy to hackers’
tactics. For example, they may not question the authenticity of a pop-up window that tells
them they have a virus. They may click on the links, call the number to fix the problem.
Microsoft estimates that 3.3 million Americans are a victim to tech support scams and figure
that some $1.5 Billion a year lost to these scams.

Interact with your parents & share the things that are scams. Have them have a relationship
with a computer service provider you trust. Best to check before clicking, I would say.

Financial concerns show up when Seniors have access to liquid financial assets. They make
them an attractive target. I often hear that for people with valuable equity positions in their
homes — those who live in great locations and have large parcels of land. Offers come daily
from Investors, Real Estate Brokers, and private parties offering to buy the home. Sorting that
all out can be overwhelming, and if the person targeting them finds them on a vulnerable day
when they are not feeling the best, they may say “yes.” Setting the property up in a Trust could
make this more difficult.

The home is also likely to attract fake contractors, high bids for simple projects. Financial scams
also exist around commercial pitches to reduce property taxes, refinancing offers, with people
convincing them to tap out the equity in their home for other things.

Social media makes it pleasant for Seniors to connect with those friends and family that is far
away. However, it can also lead them to be a target for scammers. Seniors can have a trusting
nature and a caring heart for family members in tuff situations or causes that are near and dear
to their hearts. According to the National Council on Aging, in nearly 60 percent of all elder
abuse and neglect incidents, the perpetrator is a family member, an adult child or spouse.

Cognitive impairments give way to manipulation and deception techniques. I hear, sometimes,
the senior is victimized long before anyone discovers what the situation is, and then it is too
late. Money has is lost.

Seniors have time on their hands. Plenty of time to talk to strangers that lead them into scams.
More than one-third of seniors surveyed in the latest Nation Poll on Healthy Aging said they felt
a lack of companionship at least some of the time.

Medicare is also subject to scammers looking for medical records, verifying social security
numbers for obtaining care, or for prescription drugs needed. Scammers will threaten a loss of
coverage if the Senior doesn’t provide the information they are looking to uncover.

These are All scary and concerning situations for Seniors and their families.
I am a Certified Senior Real estate Specialist (SRES). If you are looking for resources about
potential scams or where to report these scams, please call me. Plus, tips and institutions that
can help you avoid possible abuse in the future. Feel free to reach out. I can send you more
information. Stay Safe!

Teresa Barthol

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Realtor - Managing Broker
LifestylestoLive.com
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Teresa Barthol -Managing Broker with eXp Realty Seattle.  Brings 22 plus years’ experience to consult with clients about real estate in the 3rd and 4th quarters of their lives. .  With longevity in Real Estate Teresa loves to share her optimistic problem solving skills, creative out of the box thinking along with her enthusiasm for great outcomes. “Believe,” she will say, your desires in life will be realized. Teresa focuses on Lifestyles to Live within the four walls you call home.

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From My Fave Chair to Yours

From My Fave Chair to Yours

From My Fave Chair to Yours

Movies, I love to watch movies of all kinds! Since the addition of Amazon Prime and Netflix in
our house, we seem to find ourselves hooked on a few of these new TV Series. Its fun to
compare notes when I go walking with friends, or over dinner, what are the favorites. Some
days I feel I need to keep my movie watching in check. It is an escape, like reading a book. The
Binging helping me avoid the “shoulds.” I should be cleaning, and I should be calling to
generate new business, I should work on the “To-Do List.” This month, watching movies has
provided content for this article. I’ll give myself the grace to say, go ahead & watch the film, its
good for relaxation & good for inspiration.

“Mrs. Palfrey at the Claremont” is my favorite movie this month. Ii stumbled on it by accident as
it is an old move from 2005, based on a 1971 novel by Elizabeth Taylor. Mrs. Palfrey, who
appears to be abandoned by her family, found the Claremont hotel in London via a brochure
that she found while traveling with her daughter. She strikes up an unusual friendship with a
young writer who discovers they have much more in common with each other than they do
with people their age. It is a lovely film & quite funny too.

There are a few scenes in the movie that struck me as familiar family engagements. The
daughter feels very responsible for her mother & wants her to be doing things that she
suggests, but Mrs. Palfrey has a mind of her own. Her Grandson is not showing up as expected.
& Mrs. Palfrey had moved to London so she could see her Grandson more often. She was very
proud of him & wanted to show him off, and brag about him. When he doesn’t show up or
seem to care, it’s a disappointment for Mrs. Palfrey.

It got me to thinking about some conversations I have witnessed with older adults. One event
recently observed at the shoe store where the daughter said: “Mom, you are buying those
shoes!” Or another where the son is yelling at the Mom to say she doesn’t understand & this is
what she should do. (a bullying experience)

As a Real Estate Broker who is concerned that Senior’s do not become victims of bullying,
scams, manipulation, or other assorted happenings when they are in a vulnerable stage of life, I
found this movie to be a reminder. How are we talking with the elderly, are we open to being
friends, are we gentle with the conversation’s, and whose agenda is that needs to play out.

Recently, I met with a Daughter and her parents. It was a fair exchange of ideas and planning
for the future. Having “me,” the Real Estate Broker there to ask some tuff questions, to help
open up the conversation about selling the house, about where would they like to move next,
and what is the reality of some of the plans. Incorporating the legal, the financial, and the
emotional subjects got everyone to talk. No decision has been made but, having the patience to
realize it is a process of discovery for all, the daughter, myself, and the parents. Call on me. I
have a perspective on the process of getting Mom and Dad moving and many recourses to
share with you.

Teresa Barthol

Teresa Barthol

Realtor - Managing Broker
LifestylestoLive.com
425-876-9552

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Teresa Barthol

 

Teresa Barthol -Managing Broker with eXp Realty Seattle.  Brings 22 plus years’ experience to consult with clients about real estate in the 3rd and 4th quarters of their lives. .  With longevity in Real Estate Teresa loves to share her optimistic problem solving skills, creative out of the box thinking along with her enthusiasm for great outcomes. “Believe,” she will say, your desires in life will be realized. Teresa focuses on Lifestyles to Live within the four walls you call home.

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From My “Fave” Chair to Yours

From My “Fave” Chair to Yours

From My “Fave” Chair to Yours

My Fave Chair Yours has been traveling! This month I thought I would share my perspective on the “Fave” chair while going from place to place. We planned a trip to Quebec Canada this year with some good friends we had known since 1986 when we were neighbors in Bellingham. Friends who have moved almost as much as we have over the years & we have managed to stay in touch and visit each other when it works. Off to Quebec, we went starting in Montreal and then on to Quebec City and them to Tremblant. It was beautiful to share the time with friends, we had memories to share, and made many more memories in the ten days we were together.

To relate this to the “FAVE” chair, I will start with our first night out together in Quebec City atop the Ciel Bistro Bar where the view of Quebec City was amazing. Ciel Bistro-Bar “Known for its view, renowned for its cuisine!” My Fave Chair was by the window as the restaurant did the 360 Degree tour. How pleasant the conversation, the view, and the start of our vacation. A favorite of our trip.

The next would be the Benches in The Plains of Abraham Park. Rich in history. Rows of Benches for us to sit and enjoy the view of the Gardens or the North Shore of the St Laurance river. Illustrious Park What a beautiful place to sit and relax. The weather was warm & sunny so we could, take in the view and imagine the history that had gone before us.

Finally, to Tremblant to enjoy a more relaxed schedule of activities surrounded by mountains, lakes, and beautiful golf courses. My “Fave” chair there was the large oversized Adirondack chair in the Tremblant Village. A chance for our group to play and be goofy. Jumping into that enormous chair for pictures was a bit of a challenge. We had plenty of laughs!

The perspective: From those many Chairs was that it is good to leave my comfy chair at home to explore places beyond the home front comforts, to invite others into the experiences, and to look back into history. History seems to hold lots of messages to inspire us! Friends inspire us! Nature inspires us! Explore, you will be glad you did! Then when you come home to that “fave” place where you live, the conversations, memories, and soul will be enriched.

Teresa Barthol

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Teresa Barthol -Managing Broker with eXp Realty Seattle.  Brings 22 plus years’ experience to consult with clients about real estate in the 3rd and 4th quarters of their lives. .  With longevity in Real Estate Teresa loves to share her optimistic problem solving skills, creative out of the box thinking along with her enthusiasm for great outcomes. “Believe,” she will say, your desires in life will be realized. Teresa focuses on Lifestyles to Live within the four walls you call home.

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Moving in the 4th quarter

Moving in the 4th quarter

Moving in the 4th quarter

Moving in the 4th Quarter? What are the Realities?

 Do you follow or read Seth Godin?   Today he wrote about chasing short cuts. This is a quote from his e-mail.  “Personal finance, weight loss, marketing, careers, beating traffic, relationships, education- everything that matters to someone often comes with heavily promoted shortcuts as the alternative.”     It’s true, right?  How many times as a Realtor I see situations where folks expect “short cuts” Recently in a home of a 80+ year old who has plans to move in the next 30 days. ( Elisa Hawkinson with Calming Your Chaos teaching on the topic of “what would you do if you had to move in 30 days?” )  Well, there it is!  No short cut to this 80 year olds plans.  It sure was clear at this house, as I was walking through,  all the books that were piled up on the subject of moving or what to do with all the stuff, or the seminars attended or the magic of Marie Kondo did not give way to any short cut.   No magic happened over the past how many years the idea of moving was on this persons mind.  It comes down to making decisions.  That is the bottom line.  What decision{s} needs to be made to ensure you will have the outcome of your desires?  

Where do you want to live when you are 80?   When we were 20 in those invincible years we thought nothing would hold us back, stop us from doing anything & everything we wanted.  Right?  Now at 80, I see that thinking is still hanging on.  Nothing will happen or be an issue.  The plan is to live out then next 10-30 years in the home you are currently settled in.  Statistics prove that very few of us actually our given that long life opportunity to live to 110 & not have any health issue of any kind.  

 The short cut as I see it, is not making decisions about the key concerns. Not to recognize the realities of the situation of a house stuffed with a multitude of things not being utilized.  Safety concerns of unsafe pathways around the house.  Financial concerns of having enough to live out a life in a healthy way. 

 There are various conversations on all of these points. What are your thoughts on. 

  1. Short cuts?
  2. Making timely decisions? 
  3. Moving in 30 days? 

Moving during the 4th Quarter of life has different realities for everyone.  Reach out to me, I’m happy to have conversations & provide insight & support for you or your loved ones on this topic of Selling a life long home and Moving on to a Life Style that feels rewarding.

Teresa Barthol

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Realtor - Managing Broker
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Teresa Barthol

 

Teresa Barthol -Managing Broker with eXp Realty Seattle.  Brings 22 plus years’ experience to consult with clients about real estate in the 3rd and 4th quarters of their lives. .  With longevity in Real Estate Teresa loves to share her optimistic problem solving skills, creative out of the box thinking along with her enthusiasm for great outcomes. “Believe,” she will say, your desires in life will be realized. Teresa focuses on Lifestyles to Live within the four walls you call home.

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From my “Fave” Chair to yours! Pt. 2

From my “Fave” Chair to yours! Pt. 2

Stand up! Sit down!   Do you have days where there is so much on your plate?  Responsible for too many people, places or things?   I had one of those days the other day, and I could not seem to decide where to start.  I had the list going, you know the one, on paper & getting longer.

Or there was the one in my head that said, You need to do …. ! You should be doing…..! and  what are you doing?? 

Confusion!  From out of no where came a strong voice that said …”SIT DOWN!!”     Whoa, where did that come from.   It’s good to have a favorite chair on the days where the best thing you can do for yourself is “SIT DOWN”!.    Good cup of coffee/tea or a glass of wine helps too.

Once in the favorite chair, I found new thoughts and clarity.   Business is good!  What is the issue?  I was reminded of the people that I’m surrounded with who are supporting me.  That’s a reason to relax and reach out & read the articles they have published.  Inspiration to help with the chaos of the moment.

Thank you! Marcelle, Karen H., Elisa & Karen R.  The encouraging words you offer up for inspiring change. 

I’m also inspired by my 4 year old Grandson, who say’s “Grandma, let’s sit here & play your computer”   He likes to sit with me & play games on my computer.  Our special moment has a way of coming into my thoughts on a day when all seems too much.  Lets just take time to enjoy the moments.

  • Sit down in your favorite chair
  • Take a deep Breath
  • Recall the support group in your world
  • Smile, truth is some days are just too much.
  • Remember all good moments

I have also found encouragement in listening to audio presentation from inspiring people like Brene’ Brown. Wonderful talks on the topics of

  • Courage
  • Vulnerability
  • Shame
  • Empathy
  • Trust

 

From my Fave Chair to Yours! These Ideas I share to encourage you.  Cheers, Teresa

Teresa Barthol

Teresa Barthol

Realtor - Managing Broker
LifestylestoLive.com
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Teresa Barthol -Managing Broker with eXp Realty Seattle.  Brings 22 plus years’ experience to consult with clients about real estate in the 3rd and 4th quarters of their lives. .  With longevity in Real Estate Teresa loves to share her optimistic problem solving skills, creative out of the box thinking along with her enthusiasm for great outcomes. “Believe,” she will say, your desires in life will be realized. Teresa focuses on Lifestyles to Live within the four walls you call home.

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