Just because we’re women of a certain age, that doesn’t mean that online dating is out of our
league. Quite the contrary, online dating is a great way to find companionship, friendship, and
lifetime loves. Here are some tips on how to navigate online dating.
How You Got Here Doesn’t Matter; It’s Where You’re Going That Counts!
You may have been divorced recently or just waiting for the right person. Maybe you’re
widowed and don’t want to spend the rest of your long life alone. However, you got to this
point—where you’re navigating dating—it doesn’t matter. What matters is how you proceed from
here. The most important thing is to remember that online dating doesn’t have to be scary. Just
make sure you have an open mind, basic goals you want to achieve when looking for potential
partners and a basic familiarity with the Internet and websites. Then get ready to leave your
baggage behind and get on a new road to a new adventure.
Be Sure You’re In The Right Place
There are TONS of different online websites, but the reality is…they’re not all for you. Nor are
they where you’ll want to find potential partners. Don’t mess with Tindr or Bumble. They’re not
who you’re looking for and they take way too much work to weed through the mess of fake
profiles and immaturity. Instead, consider sites like eHarmony, Match.com and EliteSingles. We
also like over-50 sites like Stitch.net and OurTime.com. These sites are more probable for you to
find like-minded potential partners, and isn’t that the goal in the first place?
You don’t want someone puffing themselves up only for you to be disappointed, and no one
wants that from you. Of course, put your best foot forward. Choose a photo that you love, but
don’t pretend to be something you are not. There are many people who will add online filters,
and camera tricks to look younger, tanner, or fitter. Why start a potential relationship on a note
of dishonesty? The best way to navigate online dating is to be honest and open about who you
are and what it is that you’re looking for.
Your safety has to be a priority. Period. When you’ve gotten to the point you believe it’s time to
meet someone, make sure you do so safely. ALWAYS meet in a public place for the first several
dates, and ALWAYS let someone else know your exact plans. For the first date, consider
something casual so there’s not a lot of pressure. Always drive yourself (or have someone drive
you) so you’re not dependent upon anyone to get you home. If someone you’re interested in
doesn’t see the need to prioritize your safety, they’re not your person. Period.
Listen, we know that online dating can be…well, a bit addictive and lead to obsessive checking
of texts, emails and more. It’s kind of kin to playing the slots every time you get on your site, and
there’s a reason that gambling can be addictive. So, set boundaries. Give yourself times that
you’ll check messages, review profiles, respond, seek, etc. Live your life outside of focusing on
online dating, and enjoy the process. Boundaries protect you from losing your mind and help
you weed out what you’re really looking for.
Figuring out how to navigate online dating can make you feel overwhelmed, but it doesn’t have
to feel that way. Just remember there’s no pressure for anything to happen, and you just might
find you’ll enjoy online dating even more than you did the in-person social scenes back in the
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