Words of Loving Kindness

“Dear children, let us not love with words and speech but with actions and truth.”
1 John 3:18

My husband, Kurt, and I love our overnights with our two-year old grandsons, Enzo and
Austin. They’re absolutely delightful and we thoroughly enjoyed our time together, but
one question has followed me in our time together.


During one weekend with Enzo, Kurt called from work and asked, “How are you doing?”

I replied, “Kurt, I’m exhausted.”

Kurt walked in the door shortly thereafter and asked, “How are you doing?”

I replied, “Kurt, I’m exhausted.”

The next morning, Kurt saw me stumble out of bed. “How are you doing?”

“Kurt, I’m exhausted.”


Later that day I heard Enzo repeating the word “exhausted” in his quiet little voice.
Yikes! I thought to myself. That one word is going to define our weekend together, not
something I wanted at all, knowing our time with Enzo really had been delightful, a time
of treasured memories. And really—I wasn’t that tired.

How are you doing in your bigger and smaller conversations—really? For all of us, our
words can define a moment, color a situation, add clarity to a conversation. They can
also misrepresent, distort, and skew the memory. Other words might go unspoken,
words that need to be said. Yes, I was a little weary from childcare duties, but
“exxxhhhaaauuusssted” was an unnecessary exaggeration.

I’ve become a passionate advocate for words of loving kindness, words that are
surrounded with actions and truth. “Walk the W.O.L.K.,” I like to say. Walk the words of
loving kindness. We have so much to talk about. But be honest. Stay
connected—throughout the day, throughout life. Share God’s love, joy, peace, and hope
in so many ways.

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Deanna Nowadnick

Deanna Nowadnick

Speaker | Writer | Author


Deanna Nowadnick

Before my father died, he reminded me that Mom had asked me to write a book. At the time the boys were in college, and the notion of writing was unfathomable. Writers write books. By the time my boys were adults, I’d run out of excuses. I was also at that age when I could pause and reflect.

Fruit of My Spirit: Reframing Life in God’s Grace was my first publishing endeavor. My second was Signs in Life: Finding Direction in Our Travels with God. Both are collections of stories that tell of God’s love and faithfulness. Both tell of His remarkable grace and mercy.

When not writing, I serve as the Client Service Coordinator for The Planner’s Edge, an investment advisory firm in Washington state. I’m active in my church, serving on the Leadership Team and gathering with a wonderful group of ladies to study and giggle over lattes and chocolate. On my desk is a rock with the words “Choose Joy!” etched in it. It’s my inspiration for each day. As an author, it is my hope that my own words might share that joy we find together as children of God.

With Him, it can be so.

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